Was it a mistake?
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Was it a mistake?
| Sun, 03-11-2007 - 5:02pm |
I really need some advice.... my BF broke up with me on Friday and it was pretty much the right thing to do in my opinion. We weren't clicking anymore and just didn't get along and I stopped seeing myself having a future with him. He e-mailed me this afternoon telling me he was intentionally sabotaging the relationship because he was stressed out and that he made a mistake. He said he wants to work on his anger issues and apologized for all the mean and hurtful things that he had said in the last little while. I said that I couldn't do this right now but maybe in the future we could be friends and see what would happen then. He was very understanding and said ok and that was it. Did I make a mistake? He used to be the sweetest guy, bringing me stuffed animals for no reason, always supporting me when I was sad, just a total gentleman. I don't miss the way things were in the last little while but my heart aches for the person he once was, the couple that we used to be when things were good. Am I making a big mistake by not giving him another chance???

no, i don't think you made a mistake, at all. there are lots of ways to deal with stress, and if the relationship between you guys was important enough to him, he would never have considered "sabotaging" it just because of his stess. a relationship, ideally, is a source of strength for both people in it...spend some time with yourself and friends, get some distance from thoughts of him, regroup a little. see what he does and says in mean time, but don't contact him. it really sounds like you deserve better treatment than this guy...and if was mean to you, as you said, in my experience that will only get worse once he's seen that you'll deal with how he (mis)treats you and take him back.
just my thoughts, hope this helps a little, maybe. hang in there :)
Hi smurfingawaymyday,
Here's your previous post, just for reference:
Am I selfish? So Confused
Even if he was intentionally sabotaging the relationship, that doesn't mean that he's given up the idea of having the intimate, deep discussions he wants to have.