Was it worth it :*(
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Was it worth it :*(
| Wed, 09-21-2005 - 9:17pm |
I just broke up with my boyfriend tonight and let me explain why... ok he was in the bath room while he was in there i walked in his room and was looking at his pitures by his dresser, and there was something that caught my eye. i saw a Diva magizine i looked in it and there was a bunch of girls in bikins. so that made me mad on top of me seein that mag laying around before and he told me he threw it away. so i seen some pages stickin out and looked at them there were girls with no shirt in a thong. dated 5/30/05, so he printed these 2 pics out while we were going out. for 9 months at that time. now or we were 1 week away from 1 year. i didnt say anything about it to him. i just sent him a txt message on my cell saying im mad u lied then another one saying i hope you know were over. and as im typin this he just called said to call him back and then just left a txt saying what did i lie about what do u mean were over? i dont know what to do i love him. its just the thought of him masterbating to a pic of 2 sluts upset me i am a pretty girl with a model body why would he want to do that? it breaks my heart. what should i do plzzz help!!

Of course you are upset. But he was cornered so lied. It was not right but he was probably embarrassed.
When I was 18 if this was happening I would be upset. I had no level of security around any sexual issues. I am 40 something and know a little bit more from experience. It has nothing to do about you, your body or what kind of sex you have. Guys love to cum and they like to cum ALOT..he is 18...this is who he is.
I think it's ok to tell him it weirds you out that he does that when you are having good sex and ask if he can do it when you are not around. Also tell him you are uncomfy with the magazines but please, do not put him in a corner. Sex, porn, cyber stuff is out there because it sells. I actually like looking at the gorgeous women in the magazines..and read the stories..they are soo funny..(grin)...
There is natural masturbation and sexual fantasy and then sex addiction (which I have seen with an ex). You need to find a balance and feel ok and NOT worry every time you leave your man. Breathe, darling.
Here is something that will save you a lot of pain IF you can take this in..
You cannot control ANYONE'S behavior but you can control your reaction. Your jealousy could be an age thing (sorry but you are young and have much to learn..heck I am still learning) or it can be a sign of problems to come. Harness and deal with it..is your self esteem so low? Or is this pure jealousy? You cannot control what is in his head.
Peace