we had plans to travel, now what?

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Registered: 01-17-2006
we had plans to travel, now what?
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Sat, 02-24-2007 - 8:22pm

So me and my girlfriend recently broke up. three months ago we (or should i say she) purchased flight tickets and hotel arrangements for a trip we were planning to take in march. this wouldn't be a problem, but the tickets are non-refundable and non-transferable. she broke up with me because she didn't feel like she loved me or could ever love me again. i have all of her information about the tickets, all of the confirmations, everything. so i know i want to eventually give this all to her, but i need time to not talk to her. but here's my question:

should i feel obligated to put money towards the tickets which were purchased for me and will not be used?

we had plans that she would pay for the arrangements and i would pay for food and traveling... so it wasn't a gift by any means.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 02-24-2007 - 8:50pm

Hi serafinac and welcome to the board. I think this is something you are going to have to discuss with her.

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Registered: 01-20-2004
Sun, 02-25-2007 - 8:10pm
Hey there. This actually happened to me once before also. My bf at the time purchased a trip package through Expedia. And then not long afterwards we broke up. I was pretty bummed out. I did feel obligated to pay him back the money for my portion of the trip, because just like you said the tickets were non-transferable and non-refundable. So after a little time went by, I called him up and offered to pay for my part of the trip. He actually was pretty decent about it and told me not to worry about it. So i ended up not having to pay. It's a crappy situation. I think maybe you might have to think about offering to pay for your portion. Just be the bigger person, and yeah it sucks, but you may just have to cut your losses on this and pay her back the money. Who knows, maybe she won't even take it, like my ex let me off the hook. Good luck! And at least you broke up before the trip, and not during, right? I know of someone who was on a cruise ship with her boyfriend and he told her ON the cruise that he didn't love her anymore. So I guess it could always be worse!