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| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 9:30pm |
I was with a friend today and had a run in with my ex (sort of). me and my friend were walking down a hallway at the university, and my ex is walking down the hallway behind us (but i do not see him at first. he was headed to class just like us, but when he sees my friend he asks for a hug from her. she CLEARLY says no because she knows of everytihng he's done to me, and knows that that would probubley get under my skin. but he continued to ask her saying "can i have a hug?...no? why not?" i could hear all of this going on, and it made me feel incredibly awkward. finally i just start walking faster so i dont have to head any of this...and as im walking away he says loudly (just loud enough so i can hear) "okay, she's not looking anymore, can i have a hug?". she didnt hug him of course, and she jusst followed me down the hallway...but i just thought it was a weird thing for him to say. im sure im completely over reacting, but that felt really hurtful to me for some reason. WHY DID THAT FEEL HURTFUL?
FURTHERMORE, WHY DID HE DO THAT IN THE FIRST PLACE? IS IT THAT HE'S IMMAUTRE AND CONTINUES TO TRY TO HURT ME EVEN THOUGH HE ENDED IT? OR AM I JUST THINKING WAY TOO FAR INTO A SIMPLE SITUATION? IS IT POSSIBLE THAT HE WASNT EVEN TRYING TO MAKE ME JEALOUS By SAYING THAT, BUT JUST DOING IT?
is it stupid of me to continue thinking that he's doing these immautre mean things on purpose? if he was...wouldnt that mean that he was giving me some sort of thought? and i know he doesnt still think about me, so WHY DOES HE DO THINGS LIKE THAT?
hee will not speak to me or even look at me, but if he gets the chance he will put me in situations like that and i really just wonder why...
any thoughts?

funny you should mention that, angel, i am going through the same sort of thing. my ex has been completely immature and passive-aggressive in many ways since HE ended it with me. i don't understand but he said some of the same things, that my behavior caused him to become unhappy in the relationship. i never thought that might be the reason for his behavior now, but regardless it is immature and uncalled for.
socompletelylost, i agree, he is immature and it probably hurts him that you kissed his friend, even though he broke up with you. from my experience, even if a guy doesn't want you any more, that doesn't mean he wants anyone else to have you. they are very territorial. he is trying to make you jealous/sad/upset for whatever reason. don't buy into it. like you said don't read too much into it. ignore those types of things and eventually they will stop. if he gets a reaction out of you, he will continue to do things like that, so i'm glad you didn't react in a way that would provoke him even further.
Carrie