Well I moved out.. :(

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Registered: 03-25-2005
Well I moved out.. :(
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 7:55pm

well my BF of 4 years broke up with me SAID he needed SPACE and TIME.. It was awful moving- I was irate, crying, mad, throwing stuff.. He helped me and was trying to be nice but ended up yellling at me.. I could not walk away after.. and he was yelling at me to leave the house, he said GET OUT!! I could not believe it. I left crying...

he then called me that nite to say: Hi I was just calling to see how you are if you settled in and everything. i guess I will call you sometime sunday...WELL he never did... SHOULD I expect him to? I guess not we are not together.. he did say to me : Goodbye for now SO THAT tells me he is coming back?????

I am a wreck!!!

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Registered: 08-08-2004
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 9:37pm

cocajoe,

to begin with - many hugs to you ...

although my situation is not exactly the same as yours, believe me - i still understand...
my "ex" "broke up" with me almost 14 days ago - claiming that "he cant get over his fear of our relationship," that "he cant convince himself that we'll work," and that "he needs time to think," .. and oh: "i dont want to be without you, but i dont know how to say yes to our relationship - i dont know what the solution is." - ARGGGHHHH!!!

and alike you - after talking to him on friday - he too said "he'd call me later" (which was implied that he'll call me after he returned from his breakfast - and wellllll...THAT NEVER HAPPENED...i sat around, waiting for the phone to ring - and when it never did - it was another PANG that hit.

so yah - like you, im lost, angry, confused, a wreck - and above all, HURT.

i really dont know what to tell you to make you feel better seeing that i too need to get rid of this misery. however, this may shed some light on the situations: this is the second time my ex and i have dated - and when we broke up last summer, i was a WRECK. omg - i cant even begin to tell you how i cried nonstop for almost half a year! BUT - at one point, things did get better. i surprisingly stopped feeling so crappy, and actually began to heal...

ironically for me though - he comes prancing back, and here i am once more - BLAH.

but yes - the morale of the story is, it CAN and WILL get better - despite how hard it is to believe. and as crappy as we both feel right now, i guess we have no choice but to take each day at a time.

many hugs to you -
eeksj