What am I dealing with here?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
What am I dealing with here?
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Sat, 10-13-2007 - 10:22pm

I have posted on here before about my situation.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 6:49am

You're dealing with an abuser. As his behaviors continue, you may find yourself with physical bruises to match your emotional ones. Look up the Cycle of Domestic Violence on the internet, you will be surprised at the similarities.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-18-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 8:01am

Although no expert, I agree with the last post. I have worked in the field for many years, and I don't think that you are dealing with bipolar disorder, but someone who is abusive. It is NOT you. Nobody deserves to be berated and feel diminished when in a relationship.


Having never been in an abusive relationship, I don't know how well this will work, but I would tell him that you feel that you should go back to being friends, you need time to get things together, and that you want him to be happy (kind of what men do to us...this way he feels it's being done for his sake). If he persists in harrassing you, change your number and ultimately get a restraining order if you have to.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 3:00pm

Hi phili2004,


Here's your previous posts:


Why won't he leave me alone
Sad and confused
I guess it is over!
Breaking bad habits?
I wanted this now, so why am I crying?


::The problem is, he has actually convinced me that I am at fault, that somehow he is right in all of this.