what are we

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Registered: 11-15-2007
what are we
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Thu, 11-15-2007 - 3:14pm
me and my ex have been broken up for 4 mos now he still calls me and gives me a ride 2 work and when i
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: shavon1977
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 3:17pm

Welcome to the board shavon1977,


If you are broken up, I'd say 1) stop talking to him about private business (dating life) and 2) find another way to work.

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Registered: 11-15-2007
In reply to: shavon1977
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 6:54pm

yes we still see each other when i try to tell him that i want 2 see other people he does not listen or seem two care and he also left things at my house what should i do

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Registered: 10-22-2007
In reply to: shavon1977
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 7:12pm

Hi Shavon,


I'm sorry you're going through this, I know it sucks getting over an ended relationship. It sounds like he wants to date other people, but he doesn't want you to date anyone so he can use you as a 'back up' girlfriend. And you deserve to be treated so much better than that!


In order to move on from this relationship, you need to stop contacting him in order to heal. If he calls, don't pick up the phone. Don't email him, don't text him, don't go by his place, nothing. Don't let him keep anything at your place (throw out his stuff or give it back to him). Find another way to get to work.


There are plenty of articles that are in the resources section that will help you through this process, but as long as you keep letting him back into your life, you won't be able to move forward and have any successful relationships with anyone else. I wish you the best.


hugs, lisa

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: shavon1977
Thu, 11-15-2007 - 8:40pm

Hi savon1977,


Consider Lisa's advice..... she's right.


How To Get Over Your Breakup