what to do after you've broken nc?
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what to do after you've broken nc?
| Sun, 05-20-2007 - 3:10pm |
So i broke no contact. I had an unrelated crisis a few days after we broke up and ended up calling her, we talked and she called me the following day to check up on me, and i should have left it at that but mid week I had a lapse of judgment and texted with her. Now I will get very random texts and then after a text or two she will just arbitrally stop texting with me. I do know that i want to be friends with her in the future and i don't want to make a huge deal about it because i originally started the contact and i'm sure it is no big deal to her. What should I do?

Do you want to be friends with her afterwards? Most people know in their gut whether they do or do not want someone as a friend, so 'fess up. If you do want her as a friend, call her and say, 'hey, you know what, I need a little more time. I'll call you when I'm ready.' If you don't want her as a friend, you'll play games and ignore her. Ignoring someone *is* a game and I wouldn't suggest it in your situation because you *are* the one who started the contact, so what's she supposed to think? Make your decision and act accordingly.
Simple. Not easy, simple.
Good luck,