what to do for christmas?

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Registered: 11-18-2004
what to do for christmas?
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Wed, 12-01-2004 - 5:46pm

Hi everybody. My boyfriend (who may be leaving, as discussed in my other thread) is going to visit his family without me for christmas. I'm trying to move on to the next, constructive step and think of something nice to do by myself instead of just feeling left out and heartbroken.

My family is all dead except for my sister, and she's moving to Florida in a week. She mentioned maybe flying me out there, but considering that she's going to be with her new boyfriend, who she thinks may be proposing to her on christmas, I'd frankly rather save the airfare. I have various friends who are all happily married and I'm sure I'll get invitations, but I'm thinking I'd rather not be around all their happy family scenes, which will just make me miss what I may be losing.

So I'm thinking it would be great to do something really nice just for me, something different and maybe unconventional. I'm kind of new to the whole "pampering yourself" thing, so I could use some ideas. I don't want to spend too terribly much money but I'd love to do something fun and special. Any ideas?

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Registered: 05-19-2003
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 10:04pm
What about some good friends of yours. Maybe they're having a nice dinner that you could go to. I did this for Thanksgiving and ended up having a great holiday. If not friends, are there any co-workers or neighbors that you are friendly with? Maybe you could drop a hint that you have no plans yet for Xmas.
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Registered: 11-07-2004
Wed, 12-01-2004 - 11:39pm

u could chat with me on Xmas day

i think im going to be online at least a couple of hours.

if u like we culd chat a little while

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 10:44am

I think you should do something totally different that would make you feel better about your situation...volunteer on xmas day

the best way to feel better is to help someone else less fortunate. check out some agencies in your town to see if any need help to make someone elses xmas brighter...

i think it would make you feel better .... just a thought though

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 12:57pm

That sounds like a good idea!


Maybe buy yourself flowers, chocolates, some wine, bubble bath, a CD.







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Registered: 11-18-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 2:12pm

Thanks for the ideas, I'm starting to think of things to do. It's hard when you're depressed. Please keep them coming!

Male_Intruder, I don't want to be mean but I have to say, your post looks like a pickup line. Forgive me if I'm wrong, but I looked in your profile and you wrote that what you would like to accomplish sometime in your life was "to hav as many girls as possible." That doesn't reflect very well on you, especially considering the context. It kind of looks like you're trolling for lonely women in the broken hearts forums.

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Registered: 11-07-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 4:35pm

trolling noo never...
I dont use to do that

And if u consider it a pickup line, well anyone is free to think of a situation as he/she pleases.

Abt the profile, hey, look at other ppl s profiles and u might see nothing, I just thought I would fill mine with some stuff thats all.

Now if u consider it interesting we culd chat a while on Xmas , if u dont like it simply say no thx, as u have posted.

TY

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Registered: 11-07-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 5:07pm

besides, EVEN if it was a pick up line, I dont think thats necessarily bad, is it?

OK so another suggestion could be, go out and give urself the chance to see the landscape, i dont know if where u live theres snow, but I bet u could find some interesting places to visit.

GOOD LUCK

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Registered: 11-18-2004
Thu, 12-02-2004 - 6:10pm
Okay well sorry, maybe I over-reacted. I'll think about it and thanks for the good wishes.
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 4:09am
Cloudy04, if you haven't developed the habbit of visiting a library at least weekly, you're overlooking one of your largest and completely free resources of entertainment. You can pick up even the latest new release movies if you order them ahead of time, pick up a book-on-tape, read a cool magazine, learn an exotic language, learn how to build a water fountain or make an Oriental feast (Yes for one if necessary! It feels great taking the time to pamper yourself with fantastic food). Teach yourself a new skill that can land you a better job with more $$. Browse their music section...they have everything under the sun. Even if your particular branch doesn't have what you're looking for, ask them to order it. I've gotten items from as far away as FRANCE and it didn't cost me a dime. If you can imagine it...you can get it at your library for free. Have fun...
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Mon, 12-06-2004 - 11:53am

The library is a great thought - I haven't had a card since 10 years ago when I let it lapse after my house burned down with some library books in it.

I have a couple of things in mind so far:

I have one friend who isn't in a happy couple, a co-worker who just finished chemotherapy for a bad case of ovarian cancer and has been pretty isolated in her home. We talked and I'm going over to her house either christmas eve or day, one of the two. That should be good.

I'm also thinking it would be really nice to get myself a massage, if I can find a place to do that on christmas.

Also maybe I'd like to go for a hike - my area has lots of beautiful ocean and mountain scenery. The trick is finding an area where I don't have any memories with my boyfriend.

Aside from that, I'm planning on watching movies or something I guess. Thanks for the input and feel free to post any further ideas!