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what do I do ?
| Mon, 03-05-2007 - 2:23pm |
A little over a month ago , my boyfriend , of almost 2 years, came to me and told me we needed to take some time off , he just lost his grandmother , his son was having health issues and his ex wife was finally filing for divorce after 2 years of seperation... well, soon after she realized he was fine with the divorce , she decided that she would like to start counceling , to see if there was anything there between them, because of their 2 year old son... I have done everything for this man , and he knows it , I think that is why he is still trying to hold onto me too ... I am hoping he will see what she is doing ... Please someone give me some advise , I just wish I didn't love him like I do ...

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. That has to be rough, especially after 2 years.
I'm probably not the greatest person to give anyone 'love' or 'relationship' advice. But, the only advice I can give you is this: give him his space. He will only decide to come back to you if it's what HE wants. No amount of calling, emailing, pressuring, whining, crying or praying will do it. Hopefully he'll see what his soon-to-be-ex is doing and will decide not to get caught up in that web of deceit. But, if he doesn't, you still have to be strong enough to move on for yourself, with or without him.
I would recommend reading "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken" by Greg & Amiira Behrendt. I read it, loved it, and bought a copy. It truly helped me in a lot of ways...I'm re-reading it now because I'm going through some tough times myself.
Good luck and hang in there!
I am doing my best, and right now that's good , i guess . I will try that book , thanks for the suggestion!!! i enjoyed this , feel free to comment some more, I need it... it's not easy when you thought you were going to marry this person , and who you thought was your soul mate...
Hi mom_lonelylady,
If he's allowing her to manipulate him, there isn't much you can do. In two years, he really hasn't healed from that relationship, he just jumped from marriage to a new relationship taking no time to heal, deal with his feelings, deal with her, etc.
I'm going to write a book about this "wondering does he miss me, think of me " LOL
Of course he thinks about you and probably misses you.