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| Wed, 07-12-2006 - 4:20pm |
Hi All,
Heres my story, I met my Boyfriend just over 3 yrs ago, and alots happened it them 3 yrs. When we first met he fell for me head over heels but I was a little more hesitant, but he showered me with gifts, phone calls and treated me like a queen and I soon found myself head over heels in love with him.
Thats when I think he knew he didnt really have to try any more and there would be nights when I would call him, he wouldnt answer my phone calls wouldnt return my phone calls and just ignore me, the entire weekend. When I would eventually get hold of him he would spin me som story like he was out with the boys or just needed time to himself. This happened on numerous occasions and sadly enough I sort of got used to it.
Then we moved into together and he became soo cold towards me as if he just hated me, then I was at work one night and he wasnt answering my phone calls AGAIN, so I rushed home from work frantic, as I was worried about him, and found him asleep on the sofa, he had the paper opened and had been calling singles chatlines and texting women from chatlines. i got a message on his phone saying that he wanted to get to know this random girl and start a relationship with her.... I was absolutely devastated and moved out. A few days later I got a call form him saying he was sorry and bla, bla, bla, so I gave him a second chance.
I moved back in, but things didnt change, he kept calling the chatlines, and texting, and had his profile on everysingles website on the internet, and was doing all this right under my nose, he even left a letter under our neighbours door telling her how hot she was and he wanted to date her, leaving his number for her to call. Things were awful for me but I just couldnt leave him. On one occasional I answered our phone and it was another woman looking for him. He ran our phone bill up tp $2000, I would ask why but he would just say that he was curious.
I then ended it moving out, changing my number so he would hav no way of contacting me, and was really miserable for about a month, but then this day I came out of work and he wa there. We talked and he cried begging me to give him one last chance, and I did. Everything was great for 8 mths, we got engaged and were really happy. Then he went to work this day and didnt answer my calls all day, I sat up waiting on him home until6am, I had such a bad feeling, I just knew he was up to no good. Then I checked his messages on his phone and there was 2 messages from to different girls asking him to call them. I checked his car when he eventually did come home and there was a girls mirror(not mine) and a girls number there. My heart sank!! He'd done it again. I was hysterical, he later txted me apologising saying it wasnt how it seemed...
I then moved home(4000 miles away), because I knew I would go back to him, and a month later he called me. We talked and he said that he was miserable w/out me and things would be soo different this time. He moved back also, and it been about 5 months now, and I see him every couple of week as we dont live near each other. I looked at his phone the other week and he still calling the singles lines. I didnt even bring it up as I am soo tired of arguing about that subject, and it doesnt even phase me now.
(Almost done) So at the weekend he didnt answer my calls all weekend(I was frantic), then after the weekend I recieved I recieved a text saying he wanted a break and needed some time to himself, and not to call him but he would call me. I'm heartbroken AGAIN, why is he doing this to me? Can any one give me advice on this I'm going crazy over this but still love him soo much. I would really appriciate some advice.
Thanks

Seriously, YOU ARE BETTER THAN THIS GUY! He has done nothing but betray you and your love. This may sound harsh, but its my advice to you. Move on, he may love you, but he doesn't truly love you. You given him chances to get his sh*t together, but he still hasn't.
Find your inner strength and realize that there is someone better out there for you, who will love and honor you and won't treat you like this.
~Amber~
Oh girl.
Thanks Sandra,
I no you must think I'm absolutely crazy to still be even thinking of this guy! The thing is this is the first man that I have ever truely loved(I'm 24), and I am only hanging on to the good times(we did have alot of good times), but I no that on the other hand the pain that he has put me through is not something that you would go through in a "Normal Relationship" I no that I have only been putting of the moving on process, as it is scary, and I do like being in a relationship, but it has to happen this time.
I went into this relationship soo confident in myself, and have come out the complete opposite, but I am slowly getting my confidence back. I also no that what does not kill you makes you stronger.
I'm not looking forward to the next few months, but I no I have to do it, for once and for all.
Thanks again,
jo