what do i do?
Find a Conversation
what do i do?
| Sun, 12-11-2005 - 2:12pm |
i found out my boyfriend of FOUR years has been cheating on me. i kicked him out of my apartment the next day and i personally want nothing to do with him. the only problem is that we have a little boy together. my son (19 months)runs around the house asking where his daddy is. i called my ex and told him this, telling him that his son really wants to see him. he promised to come over the next day. i called him the next day to make sure he was coming and he said he just had to take a shower and eat lunch and he'll be over. i called him 2 hours later (now way past the time he was suppose to come see his son) and he was making all sorts of excuses why he couldnt come over (hadn't showered, doesnt have a car, etc). i dont know how to deal with him not wanting to see his son. it breaks my heart because i know what it feels like to have a father who doesnt want to see him. what do i do?????

The best thing to do is file child support and visitation papers to get things formalized. Hopefully your ex will get his head out of his butt and make a commitment to regular visitation, but for your sake you need to get it formalized by the court so you're not having to contact him to discuss this...that will just keep you from healing.
But if he is too emotionally messed up and selfish to commit to regular visits, you need to accept there is nothing you can do but be the best parent you can be to your son. You can't control your ex's actions or force him to do something he doesn't want to do.
You might want to post on the Single Mothers and Dating board as well...even though this isn't exactly a dating question, there are a lot of single moms on there who have gone through this type of thing.
Sheri