WHAT DO I DO NOW???
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WHAT DO I DO NOW???
| Mon, 07-23-2007 - 3:08pm |
what do i do with my free time? my boyfriend broke up with me a little over a week ago. we were together for about a year. it was long distance so i spent all of my free time talking to him. which was HOURS and HOURS on the phone and on the computer. now what? everyone keeps saying, keep busy, find hobbies, but how? i have nothing to keep busy with. i go out with friends as much as i can ( they have their own lives, jobs, school, relationships), they cant be with me 24/7, i go to work, i go to the gym. i have i have no hobbies and dont know what to do with my time anymore..except cry, but how much longer can i do this for?!?! :(

I know its not easy but you have to try to find a new routine. I found that very helpful. When my ex first broke up with me, I really hated the idea of anything new and wanted nothing other than to keep to the old routine (ie stay by the phone certain time during the evening because I knew he'd call... ).. then I cried to a point where I couldn't really cry more. Then I got up, watched a DVD, actually cooked myself some food instead of eating junk... and realised I'd just passed a few hours without being too miserable.
I am still not over my ex but I can tell you now I am much better at having my own life. I love watching films (if you have any interest I am more than happy to chat about films with you and swap recommendations!), reading books (again, I have my list of favourites)... of course, I also go out with my friends and go to work like everyone else, but now I know there are things I can do with my spare time.
I also experimented with going to the gym (i took up yoga and tried pilates), working excessively, enrolled in a fashion design class (but didn't finish it because I didn't like it).... I even moved house. The point I am trying to make is, you may think there is nothing to do, when actually, there are endless possibilities - you just have to hold on.. you will get to a point where you will want a new routine and a new life, away from him.
Hi again,
Here's long list of ideas..... first, journal write daily. It will give you a safe place to vent and sort through your feelings.
The gym is good....also consider walking, take a book to the park/beach/lake, get some fresh air.