What do I do now?
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| Sun, 01-15-2006 - 11:03pm |
I had a post earlier.. kinda long sorry, but I have recently broken up with my fiance. I was the one who did it because we both were treating each other poorly and had not brought the best out in each other. We both have admited to needing change and that we need to change on our own but we want to try and work things out and see what happens.
We had a long talk tonight. long story short... I have thought he's been hiding something from me and tonight I found out. I asked why can't he talk to me about how he feels about the future (he tells me how he feels now... love you, only you, need time to change, want to work it out) He said that he could talk to anyone but me because he can't tell me, change this and that because it won't be coming from me. Basically he wants to see what person I become out of this situation and see if I am still all he wants in a soul mate.
That is hard to hear, even though I know it's true. I am young and don't know how to act when just breaking up with someone wanting to be desireable and not needy or "always there" when he calls but what do I do... any one have any helpful hints of how to be desireable... not bring up old times, and feelings... any little things that all women should know... haha. I am not wanting to change for him, but we got together when I was 16 and now I'm 20 and I want to feel independent and sexy and try to get my man, ya know? :) Even if it doesn't work out I want to enjoy that process... any advice?

jbird125...
Pianoguy thinks there's a MAJOR DIFFERENCE between having a life with someone and being "cross-examined under a microscope!"
At this point in your life, YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE! . 5 years down the road your situations and attitudes might be completely different?
The important thing to grasp is that the time for each of you to be together ISN'T NOW!
So if you and your b/f need the space....TAKE IT! Distance often helps each of us grow and become more confidant in ourselves.
Good Luck!
Pianoguy