what do i say

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Registered: 07-06-2006
what do i say
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Thu, 07-06-2006 - 1:15pm
Ok, this is my situation. Me and my ex dated for 5 months and i was completely in love with him. (and yes i know it wasn't long, but i was head over heels) well, i was only 18 and it scared the living daylights out of me, so i told him that we needed to breakup and experience other things before we made any big decisions. well a year ago i told him i was ready to get back together, and he said that we should start out as friends. i was fine with that, and for a few weeks everything was great. then one day i found out about something he did, and i over-reacted alot. we both cried, but he said that he wouldn't talk about it, just that it was a huge mistake. last night i finally got the nerve to ask him if he would sit down and talk to me about everything, and we finally planned to sit down and talk about everything that has happend in the last 2 years this saturday night. he told me 6 months ago that there was no way we would ever be together, but in order for me to move on i need him to look me in the eye and tell me that. (he told me that over IM, so it is hard for me to believe him.) i was just wondering if i should ask him if he still loves me, or should i just try to move on with my life, even if both of us are obviously miserable. any advice before saturday would be greatly appreciated.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 2:02pm
I'm a little confused. Are you still together or not?
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Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 2:03pm

Honesty is the best policy. Tell him the truth. Tell him you still have feelings for him and that you would like to try again. Ask him how he feels about you two easing back into things.

Don't expect too much from him though. There may just be too much hurt between you two.

If he still has feelings for you, he should want to try again, but you never know.

I wish you luck and keep us posted.

~Amber~

P.S. Go into it thinking the worst that can happen is going to happen, that way if the worst does happen you'll be prepared. And if the best happens you'll be surprised and that much more happy about it.




Edited 7/6/2006 2:05 pm ET by manno001
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Registered: 07-06-2006
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 3:13pm
no we are not together right now
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Thu, 07-06-2006 - 10:31pm

Hi and welcome :)

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