what do men go through

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Registered: 10-04-2004
what do men go through
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Fri, 11-05-2004 - 4:25pm
i was just curious how men deal with breakups..do they miss us? do they think about us? how long does it usually take a guy to deal with a breakup when he was with someone for a long time? any answers would be appreciated thanks, linz
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Registered: 01-02-2004
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 5:35pm
I am pretty sure that there are men that takes a long period of time to heal their heart break before they will get back into the dating game, but there are some guys that will automatically start looking for another girlfriend right off the bat. So my answer will be that it totally depends on that guy, how deep is he into the relationship and how does he deal with heart breaks. Some guys will choose to seek other girls in order to fill their void or to reassure themselves that "they still got it". I seriously hate these guys because they just want to find someone to be with and it does not matter who that person it. I guess men and women deal with relationships differently. In my case, I broke up with my boyfriend two months ago and I am just starting to heal, starting to feel less painful, where I try to keep myself as busy as possible. But on the other hand, I know my ex-boyfriend is partying with his friends, looking at other girls and stuff. Seriously, I am more sad than angry about this situation, because it just points out that I am not that important to him, our relationship was not that important. But anyways, this is my 2 cent!

Amberrsan

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Fri, 11-05-2004 - 10:38pm
I can only speculate since I'm not guy....but I think they do miss us and I think they go through pains and heartache just like we do but show it and deal with it in different ways. As for how it long it takes to deal with it....I think it depends on the guy....just like it varies from girl to girl and I think it depends on the person and the situation.









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Registered: 11-07-2004
Sun, 11-07-2004 - 6:56am
emm

well I have yet to meet some guy that has more than 2 or 3 weeks of "grieving" for his lost relationship.

In my particular case, Im ready to date at most a week after ,and I think the same can be said of most guys I know.

Do guys miss girls? Well in a sense yes, but not soo deeply to fall into a depression or stuff like that.

4 example, I still have ALL the letters n gifts I received from my former girlfriends , all o f them , and its nice to go thru them at times and remember.

And girls, lets face it, its kinda cruel to say this but, there is a little average of 12 women per each 10 men in the teen , 20s and 30s age ranges , so Its not so difficult to start dating again :)