What do you do..???

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Registered: 03-28-2007
What do you do..???
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Thu, 10-18-2007 - 9:30pm

Hi everyone.. I haven't been on here in awhile...i thought I was doing okay but I'm not. I don't know if I really even have a question, I just need to vent I guess.


What do you do when it seems as if you've done EVERYTHING to keep your mind off your ex but NOTHING can get him out of your mind?? I feel as if I've tried everything..I've exercised, I'm going out with friends,i've written unsent letters..I just feel like this is never going to end.


How can somebody who supposedly loved me for 3 years just up and leave?? I really don't think that I was THAT stupid to be with someone who didn't care about me for that long. I can't believe he would just break up with me over the phone and that's it..he's done. How could he just up and leave me and my son??


I still have sooo many questions and i know that I'll probly never get answers..or at least not the answers I want.


What makes this harder is that this month would have been our 3 year anniversary..he broke up with me September 1st.

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 12:15am

Don't beat yourself up over the amount of progress. If it were possible to do this in single leap, none of us would be here (or we'd all be men, lol)

The sad truth of the matter is, even when you do everything right, it takes time. Less time, sure, but there's still a long period of healing that needs to take place. I don't have any burst of insight for you, except to keep doing what you're doing, and it'll work out.

As for the get up and leave..well. I've probably mentioned how my friend Tom left his 9 year relationship AFTER she endured 6 years of long distance med school and residency with him. The break up must have really sucked for her. Anyways, it's been close to 10 years (and he's married now) since his last relationship ended, and he STILL analyzes her with me on a regular basis. So it may be that we deal with a back-breaking amount of pain right now, but at least you know in 10 years you won't still be reminiscing about this guy to your colleagues.

cheers

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 03-08-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 10:34am

Hi Maybell80


It's not easy to get over someone, and you will have good days and bad days.


My girl left me way back in February.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 4:15pm

Hi maybell80,


Have you consider this:


Thought Stopping Techinques

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Registered: 09-30-2006
Fri, 10-19-2007 - 4:28pm

rob,


sorry to hear your story. you brought up a very true point


:I was feeling pretty good about everything but somehow, she must have gotten those vibes:


how is it that happens. people just have a sixth sense sometimes...it's when this happens i really believe in ESP.