What do you do with his stuff?
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| Fri, 03-07-2008 - 8:10pm |
Hi,
I broke up with my bf on Monday and since I was at his place, I took my stuff with me at the time (we live very close together, so there wasn't much). He asked then to come over to my place later to pick up his and I said no that it wasn't worth it. Later I found more stuff of his that he might actually want (stuff he bought from our vacation we just returned from). I have been good about NC even though I have many times looked to see if he was logged into chat and checked out updates to his online profile. Bad, I know! I kicking that habit, I promise.
So tonight he emailed me asking if we could meet up so he could return $100 he owes me. Since we were in a longish (1 year) relationship, I don't really think $100 is relevant ... after a point you stop keeping track of who paid for what, so I have no idea if I'm in hole or he is. What do I do? Do I take this as an opportunity to return his stuff and get my unneeded $100? I never know what to do with the stuff!!
Help. Thanks.
trillian

Welcome to the board trillian,
Well, you could have a mutual friend deliver his stuff.
"He asked then to come over to my place later to pick up his and I said no that it wasn't worth it."
Why would you do this?
Hi,
When I told him not to pick up his things, the "stuff" was: 1 low-cost razor, 1 deodorant, 1 toothbrush (total cost about $10). Considering he earns a very good living, I doubt his request was about picking up his stuff, but rather about wanting to talk some more which was not going to change the situation. Since I finished unpacking my suitcase that's when I ran into some things that (even though low cost) he might want since we bought them while on vacation.
As for your comment about "waiting", I'm not sure I understand. We were together for about a year. It was a serious relationship that we both agreed had the goal of marriage. Are you suggesting that I keep my toothbrush in my purse? I don't understand ....
Anyone else out there want to weigh in?
trillian
He says he owes you $100
Hi all,
So on Monday someone at my work asked me to pass something on to him (not knowing we broke up) and I didn't want to tell my coworker, so I agreed I would. And I did. We spent about an hour together just catching up about our lives over the past week we spent apart. And then I asked him to leave. It was was pleasant and civil. But, after he left it was just like breaking up all over again. I think I was hoping that if I gave him enough time to think, he would miss me and so I avoided giving him his stuff back. This did not happen. I guess I am glad I did and got it over with. Well, now its done and it was painful. So, I would recommend to anyone out there, just do it and get it over with otherwise it just rips the wound wide open again.
trillian