what do you think?

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Registered: 09-28-2006
what do you think?
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Mon, 10-15-2007 - 6:02pm

i really need

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 6:45pm

Hello,


I am going to just be blunt here.


After reading all your posts, he has broken up with you. He didnt even kiss you goodbye or leave with you. He ignored you at

TTC to conceive #1 officially since 2001. Dh had Varicocele surgery 2005 and has low sperm count. Dh tried Clomid..it didnt really help, HSG in 1999 and 2005, Charting since Jan 2006, <

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 7:34pm
Lisa at this point it's like talking to a wall. I don't think she gets it at all, and I'm afraid she is going to have to learn the VERY HARD way on this. Cuteness, have you heard nothing that OP have told you? anything???

 

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Registered: 09-28-2006
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 9:44pm
like i said we did talk
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Registered: 07-14-2007
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 10:11pm

I don't think there's anything that I or anyone else can say at this point that hasn't already been repeated a dozen times. I can quote at least half a dozen people who have had LONGER relationships than you and broken up. Or people who's boyfriends have led them on and on for years. I can assure you that your relationship is not going to be the one where he's just 'confused' and 'coming to his senses'.

But I have to admit that I am personally getting annoyed that you keep asking for advice and then refuting it only to come back and repeat the cycle. I don't like spending 20 minutes thinking out a thoughtful response only to have someone steamroller over it. It's one thing to have disagree with it, it's another to have you not even read it before you're denying the possibility.

So if you're secure in the idea that the relationship is as fantastic as you think it is, I invite you to call him up, and ask him point blank "Do you want to break up with me?" and see what he says.




Edited 10/16/2007 10:53 am ET by unicornssong
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Registered: 11-06-2006
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 4:13am

Hello,


I agree Mdrsfr. I didnt want to be mean about it but I dont understand why she keeps going over and over this.

TTC to conceive #1 officially since 2001. Dh had Varicocele surgery 2005 and has low sperm count. Dh tried Clomid..it didnt really help, HSG in 1999 and 2005, Charting since Jan 2006, <

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Registered: 02-23-2005
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 1:08pm
I know, Lisa! I've been on the side of the fence which never takes advice either. But I think the difference was that I had awareness that I was doing it, just no self-control. It would be one thing to say, "yeah, i know what you guys are saying but..." Instead I really think she wants us to tell her that yeah, there is a chance her boyfriend (or ex, as i like to call him) will come to his senses. It's too bad she is wasting such a huge amount of time over this guy. No advice is really going to help her. I think she will finally come to her senses. Let's hope!