What do you think???

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Registered: 04-03-2006
What do you think???
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Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:44pm
Okay, here's the deal. I have been dating a great guy for about 7 weeks. Everything was great between us. Well, he said he wanted to talk to me so we went to a restaurant and sat outside. He has been really busy at work lately and I thought I was going to hear that he is just too busy to deal with a relationship right now, so I had already thought how I would reply to that. Well, he threw me a huge curveball. Apparently his ex, who he lived with for about 2 years called him and wants to work things out. They have been broken up for about a year and a half but have remained friends only. She saw us together about a month ago so maybe that is what spurred this on. Let me add that she is the one who dumped him because he wasn't the one for her and one of the reasons was that he didn't make enough money. She is rich I might add. Well, since they split he started his own business and is doing pretty good. He told me he doesn't know if he still loves her or not, but he just needs a little time to think about all this. I basically told him that I understand and that he needs to figure out how he feels. So we broke up and I told him that I am just going to assume that he is going back to her and they will live happily ever after. When we talked he hadn't decided anything yet but didn't expect me to wait for him either. I don't know what to think at this point. I know he cares about me from how he was with me and I appreciate that he did this face to face and was honest with me. Do you think he really just needs time to think and figure it out or did he already make up his mind when he dumped me?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 12:57pm

geenafl...

Pianoguy thinks the "time elapse process" will give you your answer.

7 Weeks isn't exactly a great deal of time to consider getting serious with anybody. So whether the man's actual feelings were honest...or if you were just a 'temporary feminine diversion' is tough to tell!

Why not see what happens during the course of the next 30 days? If you hear from him within the next 4 weeks....then the two of you should have a serious one-to-one chat about his expectations and yours? If the separation goes longer....assume that there wasn't "serious interest" on his side!

But either way....give yourself permmission to date others and socialize....assuming that's what you wish to do?

Best wishes, warm thoughts and a couple hugs...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Mon, 04-03-2006 - 1:11pm

hi geenafl

sorry to tell you but your exbf is not worth for you and actually tell him his so stupid if he go back to his ex. i mean after he got dump coz of money issue his crazy what about they got back together and 2/3 yrs from now his business goes down. is she going to dump him again?

I'M ASSUMING HIS CONFUSED RIGHT NOW AND LETS FACE THE REALITY....SHE HAVE MONEY THATS WHY 100% HIS GOING BACK WITH HER. YOU GUYS BEEN 7 WEEKS RIGHT...WELL I ACTUALLY TIME DOESNT REALLY COUNT ITS THE VALUE OF THE RELATIONSHIP ESP IF YOU DEVELOP FEELING WITH THIS PERSON THAT FAST.

ACTUALLY TO TELL YOU THE TRUTH I'M THE PERSON ALWAYS ADVISE PEOPLE TO FIGHT FOR THEIR RELATIONSHIP..."ONLY" IF I COULD SEE THERES REASON FOR THEM TO STAY!

AT YOUR SITUATION....END IT SOON HIS NOT WORTH FOR YOU TO FIGHT FOR HIM. ESP IF MONEY IS INVOLVED...YOU JUST GOING TO HURT YOUR SELF MORE.

THIS IS JUST A FRIENDLY ADVISED IS ALL UP TO YOU AND ITS YOUR CHOICE...GOOD LUCK