What Does Ex-Bf Want?
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| Wed, 07-04-2007 - 10:31pm |
Hi,
We broke up 2 weeks ago. Shortly after that, he told me he wanted to stay "friends." I didn't want that at this point. I wanted a clean break to recover, and then perhaps start dating again.
His aunt is a friend of mine. He is living with her now because he is broke. She had a cookout. I went and he was there. We got along OK. He had to go to his parents for a bit (they just got back from Europe). I stayed a while, then had to leave because I had to prepare for tomorrow and let my dogs out.
I then got a text from him asking why I left, that he was on his way back to the party, that he wants to come over to see me and my daughter....that it was good to see me and that I should eat more because I am "too thin."
Whatever does he want????
Bunny

Hi the_happy_bunny,
Could be he wants to be friends, test the water or whatever, you won't know until you talk to him. The bigger questions are do you want to talk to him?
Hi,
See, I don't know what I want. I know at this point he is not a candidate to be a life-long partner.
Bunny
Hi,
I am not doing anything. He is the one initiating the texts. I got one this morning after I left for work. He wanted to drop by and say "hi."
I going to play it cool for as long as I can before I eventually ask him what he wants from me.
Thanks,
Bunny
For whatever reason, you're keeping yourself in an unhealthy situation with a man whose intrinsic values, by your own admission,
Hi,
I did ask him what he wanted. He wants to be "friends" so we can work things out. He doesn't want a relationship. I told him he wants his cake and to eat it too. I don't play word games, head games or hedge my bets. "Friendship" assumes we are free to see other people while working it out. That is impossible. Might as well have a clean slate.
Bunny
Hi,
I told him in no uncertain terms that I can't do the friends thing. He thinks that is how we can work things out. I disagreed and told him I want a clean slate and no ambiguous loose ends.
Bunny