What does he mean when he says:

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2006
What does he mean when he says:
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Wed, 10-25-2006 - 11:26pm

Hi everyone...I just posted the message "I'm a mess right now".

I just got a text from "him".

He said:

"Love you and miss you so much. I wish I knew how to explain why things are so difficult between us."

What does he mean? So does he know why things are difficult but he just doesn't know how to tell me? Or is that he REALLY doesn't know why things are diffcult and he's just as confused as I am?

I know I could just ask him, but I've decided to have no contact with him for 30 days to give both of us a break. But it's killing me!! I want to know what he means. Please offer any advice/ideas...thanks!

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Registered: 09-09-2003
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 12:20am
I did not read the other post so I dont know what happened exactly with you two. But look at the time the email was sent if after 10 pm it is probably his other brain talking! Guys miss you when they need to have sex and dont find anyone!! I m sure this may sound harsh but this is my interpretation
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Registered: 10-24-2006
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 5:06am

Yeah, I totally agree with juliara2003. I just received a text from my ex (at 2am) saying, "I miss u dearly". I replied, "Miss u too but we've broken up and it's best that we move on" (as advised in my post 'Why is he doing this to me?). Guess what I got from him? He wrote, "Life is lonely and 'dry' without u. Do u think u can 'help' me with the 'dry' part?". So I replied him again (just to make sure that I get the 'dry' part right), "Well, your place or mine?". He text me his reply, "Yours. Shall I come over now?".

I was totally stunt! This ex of mine is asking for post break up sex. So... don't take the text seriously, especially if it's after 10pm and he was the one who initiated the break up in the first place.

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 11:28am

Those are pretty good. but what if it was before 10? I posted mine under Falling Apart. He said "I miss u so much, my heart is dead for every1 next, u & me r the greatest love tragedy ever, it kills me that I cant be with you, but we don't work together, its that simple, c u in the next life, i will luv u from here to there." I don't get it. It seems as though once men call it off, they don't want to push their pride to the side and say "hey, I was wrong. I do need to change, I do love you. I do want to work it out."

Im pretty sure he does miss you, not only like "that". Once you part, everything changes, including your weekend activities. Nothing could top snuggling on the couch, watching DVD's on a rainy day. NOW, it's the most God-awful kind of day to spend alone. Once they stop thinking of all the wrong reasons to be together after the break-up, they have nothing else but to think of all the good times. It doesn't matter if they are always going out, moved on, whatever, because there will be something one second out of the day that will remind him of you that will put a smile on his face and grief in his heart that will make him wonder if he made the right choice.

ALSO, READ LET IT GO! IT HAS HELPED ME OUT ALOT.




Edited 10/26/2006 11:30 am ET by ninijo
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Registered: 09-30-2006
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 1:23pm

Wow, what guy is really so sappy? Even though it's nice to hear, save it for Shakespeare. My guess is he's boosting his ego by saying that, and hoping you'll say the same back just so he can 1) hear it and 2) know he can come back whenever he wants.

If he wants to come back, he'll say so. Until then, and even then, nothing else means anything but I missed you, but not enough to do anything about it.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-28-2006
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 1:52pm
MAYBE HIS HAS SOME ISSUE BUT HIS TOO JERKKK TO ADMIT THE TRUTH TO YOU....OFCOURSE HE WONT ADMIT IT TO PLAY IT SAFE!!! HIS TRYING TO PUT YOU ON HOLD...CUZ I'M ASSUMING HE KNOWS HIS TOTALLY A LOSER...SO HE KNOWS NO ONE WILL EVER DATE HIM AGAIN..WHAT DO YOU THINK??
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Registered: 12-14-2005
Thu, 10-26-2006 - 6:05pm
I have to admit, he was very romantic. But of course, I do hope you read my reply. I do admit, I said I missed him too, but I didn't beat around the bush when I said bye, the best of luck. He knows what that means. If not, then he has plenty of time to think about it, look it up, whatever.