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What does he want?
| Mon, 02-11-2008 - 10:07pm |
Hello everyone. I have posted here several times and I appreciate everyone's advice. I have an update on my situation. Here's a little background. My ex and I dated for almost 9 years off and on. I am 30 and he is 35. We have been broke up for 7 months now. We were engaged to be married last December. I broke it off. I dated other people. He

hold on, whats up w/ the 19 year old? Is he having a mid life crisis thing... ;)
aside from that one... it sounds like he needs time to either finish things w/ who he is with and / or time to think about you two.
You've got to be kdding me, he's still sliming around at your doorstep? I'm pretty sure I've said it before, but if not here it is again:
YOUR EX IS FULL OF CRAP.
I know why you're still holding on, and it's because you want things to go your way and it feels like you still love him, but ask yourself how possible is it to really love someone who only OBVIOUSLY (from way over here) loves himself, is stringing both you and the other chick on a very long flimsy string, is cheating (albeit emotionally) on both of you with both of you (because from what I remember, she doesn't even know about you), feeds you total CRAP about how he needs to find himself as a 35-yr old but he's doing that with a 19-yr old, how he doesn't really love her but is oh-so-very willing to sleep with her and feed her probably the same bullcrap while telling you from the other side of his two faces that he just loves you so so much but can't really be mean and dump her, please just wait while he gets it all out of his system and then he'll get back to you when he's done effing around because he knows you'll still be waiting for him and proof positive is he deliberately ignored you for three weeks and you still answered and listened to his nonsense again, blah blah blah blah blah blah blah......
What I don't know is WHY ARE YOU STILL LISTENING TO HIM?????
I totally agree with Sandra and when I first read your post, especially this part:
He told me that he couldn't just dump her and that he knew I wanted everything right now and told me to be patient.
My first thought was, "He doesn't want to stop having sex with her yet."