What does he want?
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What does he want?
| Tue, 09-06-2005 - 4:49pm |
Ok well we've been broken up for a little over a week (on a break). A week before i did it, he was talking about it so i figured that's what he wanted. Turns out I made a mistake, I love him and I hate not being "with him". The next day cried to him wanted to get back together, and he said..let's try to go on a few dates first. Well, haven't yet, just gone to his house twice and he came over to my place last night...and stayed the night! and I was totally confused about this, his actions tell me that he's into me, but when we talk about it, it's like he's not. Before we went to sleep, I ask "so..are we good?"and he says "yea", but then I say..no i mean are we together or what? and he says..(again after a week ago).."well it seems like the right thing to do, but ..i don't know. I like where we are now. I just want to make sure this doesn't happen again. That night we broke up was the worst night in my life ...and plus I'll be out of town all next week..and he goes on about how he has no idea what he's going to do(being with his mom and grandma)..I'm like "what does this have to do with anything?!" maybe he just doesn't want to talk about it, but I hate this. I feel so vulnerable and I don't want to be led on. So every night he initiates the "i love you" and he still kisses me though Im unsure about it..WELL TODAY..he wanted to have sex! I clearly said.."I cannot do this if we're not together". AFter that, i could tell something was different about his state of mind and a little later he left. I want him back and I have no idea how to do this. I messed up bad for starting the break..we should've went out more so things wouldn't seem "routine" in his words. We both have busy schedules and it's hard to make time to see each other. Any advice? I can't tell if he really wants to be together or not. WE've been together for over a year and a half and he just recently turned 21 while i'm still 19. part of me feels he wants to start it up again, but another part of me is confused because he's making me wait. Can i make it up to him at all for hurting him? Should I just try to be optimistic about it and hope for the best? please help!

Don't wait on him sweetie! I was with my ex for 3 years. He was 21, I was 19 when we broke up. I waited on him for almost 3 months because he still called me every day, still came to see me at least once a week, still hugged me every time he saw me (I wouldn't let him kiss me)... we even went to KY together to visit friends and slept in the same bed.
Now he's moved on to a girl his age that has 2 kids, ages 5 and infant. And he did this while he was still telling me that he wanted us to eventually get back together. He just one day stopped calling altogether (he said at the end of that conversation that he'd call me back later) and after 2 times of trying to contact him in 2 weeks, he told me THROUGH TEXT MESSAGE to leave him alone that it was time to move on.
I know it's harsh but,
DON'T WAIT ON HIM!!! DON'T LET HIM STRING YOU ALONG AND PLAY GAMES WITH YOUR HEART!!
I know it hurts, I know how incredibly sad and lonely you are and I know how much you must love him. But it hurts me worse knowing what I know now. I was just being led on and kept around until he found somebody new. Learn from my mistakes and don't end up in my situation!
HUGS