WHAT does this mean???

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Registered: 06-19-2007
WHAT does this mean???
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Sat, 06-30-2007 - 9:02am
Hi everyone...this is an awesome board and let me first just give tons of *HUGS* to everyone out there going through all this yucky stuff...ok, here's my situation. I was "seeing" a guy for several months (hanging out, , talking on the phone, etc.) He always tended toward the selfish side, that and a host of other reasons has finally shown me that not only are we not meant to be one day I will look back and be GLAD we weren't. But here's the one thing I wish I could get an answer to. Last Saturday, he broke a date with me at the last minute for a completely ludicrous reason. I was extremely hurt and this was the last straw, as I had been a very patient "doormat" up until then. But I did not scream, curse or do anything of the things I wanted to do...just quietly said fine, I'll let you go do what you have to do. He asked me to do something Sunday, but I had the sense to say I was busy (which was the truth actually, I had a wedding to attend and I told him this). So he calls me in the middle of Monday morning (a workday for both of us) a time when he has NEVER called before. I had to say "hello" twice, because there was no answer for a few moments (I knew it was him, his name popped up on my cell when it rang). Finally, he's all sheepish sounding (totally out of his normal it's-all-about-me-and-ain't-that-great mode)and says, "Oh...hey. I wasn't sure if I'd get your voice mail or if you'd answer." Now I've always answered before, unless I truly did not have my phone on me for some reason...I've never dodged his calls even when I knew I should. So that sounded weird right there. So he says, "So you're at work?" DUH!!! Where else would I be at this time??? But I was nice and said "Yes, I am." So he said, "Well, I was just calling to say I was going to call later...will you be around?" Calling to say he's calling later? That's a new one. But I told him, yes, I would be around. BUT IT'S NOW SATURDAY MORNING AND I STILL HAVE NOT HEARD! WHAT whas that all about? At first I thought he was just testing the waters to see if I'd scream or hang up on him, which I obviously didn't. So what the hell was the point of that? Making a special effort, at a strange time, to "call to say you're calling later" and then...nothing all week??? I am NOT calling him, because I know I should not for a multitude of reasons anyway and this is no exception, but this is drving me crazy! Why would a guy do this...especially one who has always been such a confident, selfish, a-hole??? Thanks for any help!!!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 07-01-2007 - 5:22pm

Hi mysticgirl05,


Don't even try to figure it out..... let it go. It's not worth it.