What does this mean?

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Registered: 11-19-2004
What does this mean?
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Fri, 04-01-2005 - 5:08pm
I was in an on again off again thing. This last time he broke it off he said "don't you know this hurts me just as much as it hurts you?" That just doesn't make any sense to me. I know he really enjoyed being with me, we had things in common, had a lot of fun together, etc., so why break it of if it is going to hurt yourself too? And he also said that we should see each other for a little while, but we could talk on the phone still. I wonder what does he think is really going to change in this little while of not seeing each other. My feelings will still be the same. I know he had told me he does not see any reason why two people can't remain friends after a break up. He thinks that is selfish if one person cannot be friends. I told him I can definitely see why someone could not be friends.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 7:06pm

ikimmer5...


In order to become "just friends".....S-P-A-C-E is definitely a pre-requisite!


Assuming that just friendship is something you can accept with the man....let him have as much space as he wants.

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Registered: 11-19-2004
Fri, 04-01-2005 - 8:35pm
That's just the thing.......I don't know if I'll ever really be "over" him. I consider him my one true love. I think it would be so hard to just be friends.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 7:50am

ikimmer5...


"Being Truly Over" anybody as opposed to MOVING FORWARD WITH YOUR LIFE....will always be a conflicting choice!


But being just friends with him isn't something you want.

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Registered: 11-19-2004
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 9:40am
The thing is that I'm 35, divorced a year ago, and I have two kids and I can honestly say there isn't a lot to choose from out there. I see the majority of the men out there that are my age or a little older and I'm just not attracted to them in one way or another. And when I'm in the mood I'm in right now I feel very self-destructive. Like going out and getting drunk and picking up some guy tonight just to fill the void. I don't know. I just don't know what to do with myself.......the kids are gone with their Dad this weekend........and I had been planning to do something with the ex-bf.
I talked to him just last night and he said he said I shouldn't have gotten caught up so much in the words (he had made it very clear he considered us just friends) and that I should listen to his actions more (he was being very affectionate). That is just so confusing to me. He used for example the night we went to the movies and he reached for my hand several times and I didn't do anything. This was after he had made it terribly clear we were "just" friends. I just want to scream and cry and everything. Did I miss something........did I not do something?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 04-02-2005 - 1:32pm

ikimmer5...


Are you THAT desperate to have a man's company?


Granted...you're not a teenager or in your 20s any longer, but aside from a little instant "SATISFACTION" (quoting Mick Jagger here)....how terrific are you going to be feeling when the weekend's over and the children are back home?

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 04-04-2005 - 10:52pm
I think he's keeping you as a spare!!
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