What does "You think too much" mean?
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What does "You think too much" mean?
| Sun, 12-19-2004 - 12:27am |
One of the reasons I had problems with my ex was because he said I thought too much about things. What does this mean? He was very laid back and didn't ponder over choices for too long, many times saying "I don't care" about things that I would think would be dear to him. I analyze the situation and consider the pros and cons about things before acting. Yes, I'm anal... oh well. I didn't think that was a bad thing, but today my brother said I think too much also. He said I'm not happy with things and let it affect me too much. Is this something I should work on changing in me? Or should I not think too much about it? :)

Tweetie,
I tend to have the same comment said of me. I do have the occasion to deliberate, sometimes overanalyze, things. And, sometimes, I do let the decisions affect me too much. I worry so much about how my decisions will affect others, my life, and myself that I lose time that I could be using in a more productive or enjoyable way.
Next time you catch yourself overcontemplating, try this. Spend as much time on the issue as it would matter to you in the future. For instance:
-Planning on what to make for dinner for your guests? Be quick about it. A month from now, YOU won't even remember what was prepared.
-A birthday present for that brother who was kind enough to make an observation? Well, think about the color and pattern of the sweater or tie. But, don't dwell. It's not as if you are going to have to look at it too often. He will appreciate it nonetheless.
-Thinking about buying a new car? Well, that's something you'll be remembering every time you step into it, so deliberate longer.
If you find yourself "thinking too much" and trying to predetermine every little reaction others MAY have, you may wish seek therapy to find out why. Maybe you've lost the trust in yourself to make the right decision.
Mimiche
Well sometimes people "think too much" about things ... sometimes some men (not all!) should admit to themselves they "don't think enough".
Lynne