What does "You think too much" mean?

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Registered: 08-07-2004
What does "You think too much" mean?
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Sun, 12-19-2004 - 12:27am
One of the reasons I had problems with my ex was because he said I thought too much about things. What does this mean? He was very laid back and didn't ponder over choices for too long, many times saying "I don't care" about things that I would think would be dear to him. I analyze the situation and consider the pros and cons about things before acting. Yes, I'm anal... oh well. I didn't think that was a bad thing, but today my brother said I think too much also. He said I'm not happy with things and let it affect me too much. Is this something I should work on changing in me? Or should I not think too much about it? :)
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Registered: 12-18-2004
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 1:15am

Tweetie,

I tend to have the same comment said of me. I do have the occasion to deliberate, sometimes overanalyze, things. And, sometimes, I do let the decisions affect me too much. I worry so much about how my decisions will affect others, my life, and myself that I lose time that I could be using in a more productive or enjoyable way.

Next time you catch yourself overcontemplating, try this. Spend as much time on the issue as it would matter to you in the future. For instance:
-Planning on what to make for dinner for your guests? Be quick about it. A month from now, YOU won't even remember what was prepared.
-A birthday present for that brother who was kind enough to make an observation? Well, think about the color and pattern of the sweater or tie. But, don't dwell. It's not as if you are going to have to look at it too often. He will appreciate it nonetheless.
-Thinking about buying a new car? Well, that's something you'll be remembering every time you step into it, so deliberate longer.

If you find yourself "thinking too much" and trying to predetermine every little reaction others MAY have, you may wish seek therapy to find out why. Maybe you've lost the trust in yourself to make the right decision.

Mimiche

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Registered: 12-19-2004
Sun, 12-19-2004 - 3:28am
Sigh)) I got this sometimes from people, but I don't think you should let it bother you. You must believe that you can trust your thoughts, where else can you truly be yourself? Don't let others invade the place where you don't have to please or conform, think how you desire, and when it gets stressful, find an outlet to help you relax and then start with a fresh mind. I am not the most successful person, made my mistakes, but I allow myself to think things through completely so to not regret much, even break ups and such. I try to break it down a little and take my time~considering my options, because thinking it through gives me the confidance to make a decision and stick to it. I know I have thought it through, and I tell myself I am qualified to make this choice! Maybe look closer at who you hang with, when I am searching for answers I tend to surround myself with free thinkers and encouraging folks; they inspire me rather than repress and I feel comfy sharing, and isn't that what we want??
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Registered: 07-08-2004
Mon, 12-20-2004 - 1:49pm

Well sometimes people "think too much" about things ... sometimes some men (not all!) should admit to themselves they "don't think enough".

Lynne