What goes around comes around!

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Registered: 09-24-2003
What goes around comes around!
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 11:06am

Here’s a story that I hope will all make you feel a little bit better. I first found these boards when I went through a really traumatic break-up two years ago. I was really in love with my ex and he completely blindsided me, telling me one day how natural everything was between us, and great, and this is supposed to be the way it feels when you fall in love—blah, blah, blah. Well less then a week later we get into a squabble (that he caused) and he decides that what we had was no more than a honeymoon period, and we’re just too opposite.

I was devastated! I tried everything reasoning, begging, the whole thing but he was done. It took me a long time to get over him and even longer before I could be happy in a relationship again (with my current boyfriend who is a great guy!). One of the things I did to help cope was I started running with the goal of eventually running in the NYC Marathon (which I will be doing three weeks from now!). I have to confess my ex- was also a runner so in the back of my mind I had the hope of one day beating him at a race!

This past April, I saw him at the beginning of a race with another woman. While it stung a little, it gave me satisfaction knowing that this woman looked completely miserable to be there with him. And she was not as attractive as me either! I had not seen them at any races since but last week I started taking a marathon preparation course with a local running club and who should be in the class but the same woman I saw with my ex. She was with another training partner, a female, and I heard them start to talk about my ex. Well she wound up breaking up with him because she felt he was too “clingy” and she wanted a relationship where she had her independence. Apparently my ex sent her an e-mail last week telling her how much he missed her. She told her partner that while it was “nice” to hear from him and she was glad they dated, she had no intention of getting back together with him and he keeps going on as if they had some “great romance” and she said they didn’t.

I cannot begin to tell you how much satisfaction it gives me knowing this. He’s pining for this woman and I know how she really feels about him. He went from being with a woman who loved him and would’ve done anything for him to a woman who “just wasn’t that into him!” While it’s tempting to call my ex and rub it in I won’t because the past is the past and I did indeed find something better.

What I hope you take away from this story is when someone breaks your heart, as hard as it is let them go, and focus only on you. Because karma ALWAYS takes care of these jerks in the end!

Good luck to you all!

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 8:19am

I hope so, my ex cheated on his last girlfriend all the while telling her he loved her, and then turned around and did the exact same thing to me, all the while telling me he loved me, and when I would ask him in the beginning how could he have cheated on her and that wasnt right, he was contrite and said he knew it was wrong and he would never do that to me or hurt someone that way again, blah blah blah, we were different, I was the one, well he did it to me too 9 months after he did it to her, I cant wait for it to happen to him.

Kathy

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Registered: 09-24-2003
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 7:12pm
Don't worry Kathy, he will get exactly what he deserves!