What Goes Around, Comes Around

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Registered: 12-30-2007
What Goes Around, Comes Around
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Sun, 12-30-2007 - 11:49pm

Good evening everyone :)
I'll tell you right now, I'm inexperienced and I don't know any better.

Here's my situation:
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 8 months (Long distance , although his family owns another home about from me). We went through the honeymoon phase quite wonderfully, BUT around September of this year, when school started up again, our communication was a constant 'Play-pause-play-pause' situation. Sometimes we'd go for days, even up to a week without talking, but every time we resumed, we would happily click back together.

Then...around Thanksgiving time, I wanted to spice up the relationship a little. You know, light the spark again. So I wrote a letter, I suppose it could be a love letter. It was harmless, loving, and 110% genuine. I sent it, with high hopes.
I called him a few days after, and he told me that his parents got to it first. His mother is similar to the one in that movie Monster-in-Law (the one with J-Lo and the angry mother in law) His mother, I believe, is the kind that hates any woman who plans to 'replace' her. So, his parents didn't want him talking to me.
Although, he did say that he loved the letter and that it was nice.

I haven't spoke to him on the phone since. It's been around a month now, maybe more.
I am suspended in a state of nothingness at the moment. I feel so powerless, and I don't know what to do. I've been hopeful and very patient, but something tells me I should just let go.

I was thinking of sending an email because of the fact he won't pick up his phone, but how should I start..or what should I mention?

How would you start a letter to somebody you really, really liked to tell them that you're hurt and you want to talk or break things?

Any help or advice will greatly be appreciated. Thank you so much.
- Claire Anne

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Registered: 03-31-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 4:01pm

asian family's are a tricky thing. You don't want to keep too much secret, because eventually you have to break them in. Breaking asian parents into american culture is a delicate thing. There will undoubtedly be fights.

stick with your girl friends!
Stay cool!
have a good 2008!

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Registered: 12-30-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 4:06pm

Indeed, June :P

It's TOO delicate...sigh.
You too! Thanks for the insight :)

Now for the dreaded...NC. >__<

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