What is going on with him?
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| Sat, 01-20-2007 - 11:09pm |
New to all of this dating thing. Was married to a man for 18yrs, seperated for 2yrs, had dates here and there but almost 6 mons. ago I started dating "him". Neither one of us wanted anything serious and were friends for about a year before we started dating. We discussed being exclusive, he was the one that brought it up months ago. Everything was great until last Sunday.
We talked everyday, in person and or on phone. For the last few months, we've seen each other 3-4 times a week (even if its for a quick coffee and a smooch)I'd get good morning, sweet dreams, and thinking of you texts all the time. We went away 2 weekends ago for 2 nights and everything was great, same as always.
Last Sunday night he informed me that he wouldn't be able to see me until Thurs. He said that he was going to work Mon. Tues. and Wed. evening to make some extra cash (which he did) What I didn't understand was this meant texts stopped, phone calls went from long comfortable chats to uncomfortable silence. No mention of when are we going to see each other next. Basically a complete turn around.
Being new to this dating/relationship thing, I have no clue as to what is going on with him. I feel like I'm being blown off. I mentioned to him that he seems different but he just claims he has alot of stuff going on right now.
Some of my friends (whom are in long term relationships) say he's just spooked and my single friends have all kinds of reasons.
What do you think?

Oh good grief, just because a man changes up a little doesn't automatically mean there's someone else.
He isn't seeing anyone but I think he has commitment issues. He hasn't been with someone longer then 2-3 months for years.
I played it cool, hung out with the girls and did see him Thurs. This is when I talked to him about not calling...calmly and rationally. Is he spooked or ready to bolt? Time will tell I guess but in the mean time I refuse to let him know that I'm bothered by this (this isn't easy).
He went to his buddy's house last night and I didn't text or call. He called me when he got home and I acted as if nothing was wrong. Is he like this because he's used to being single? URG !!!!!
I'm laughing over here, NOT because you're being silly--- ok, maybe just a little--- but actually it's mostly because this stuff happens every day.
Answer: he may be getting a bit spooked, but how you handle this
Thanks Sandra, just got home from being dumped !! He was suppose to call this morning, finally he call after I got off work and we met for coffee. I was dumped because he doesn't know what he wants, he didn't think he was going to like me this much, I never gave him a reason to do this, he just doesn't think he's being fair to string me along.
I respect his honesty but being dumped because he likes me too much is weird :) He says he's going to miss me...weird as well. I'm going to miss him to but life is life. I smiled when you said it's all in how I handled it. I sat quietly and listened to him, told him I knew something was up and this sucks but all I ever asked of him was honesty and thanked him for being honest. He looked at me like I kicked him in the head. Then we just sat there (in my truck) and I was looking out the window (trying to keep it together,which I did) and then I caught him staring at me. When I asked him why he was staring he just asked for a hug which turned into him squeezing the sh-t out of me.
Now I'm really confused. I'd go back with him in a minute but wouldn't let him know that. Now it's all the new questions...will he call...when...what would I say?...how long before I give up...I'm sure you get what I'm saying.