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| Wed, 04-26-2006 - 1:48am |
Hey everyone.. First post for me..Just for some background info on my situation..
I'm 24 and I met a guy who goes to the same college(and same major) I used to go to.. I met him through a friend at the school in mid February not long after Valentine's Day.. He is 22 (2 years younger- a first for me as I usually date guys older than me) and graduating in May.. We hit it off right away, ended up talking one night til 6 AM and didnt realize how long it had been til we saw the sun rising.. as of right now he has no car and I was picking him up from school nightly in my car and we'd eat out or stay in the dorms and watch a movie and cuddle.. He's an artist (like me) and right from the start he was drawing me little pictures, emailing me cute poems, telling me how I was so beautiful and such a unique girl in that I had so much in common with him.... he wrote me sweet/funny emails daily.. he changed his myspace profile to "in a relationship" and I followed suit.. he would get me little gifts, mix CDs he made, candy, and he always set up the dates.. I met most of his friends and we went out with them on several occassions.. I played by the rules and never called him unless it was to call him back, but I would text him a funny Star Wars quote now and again (we are both major geeks when it comes to good movies)....we had SO much in common and I'm also *majorly* attracted to him as he was supposedly to me.... He and his friends constantly told me I looked like Angelina Jolie but he said he found me prettier.. he said I had the most gorgeous eyes ever, yadda yadda yadda.....
Now heres where it gets complicated.. In the major we studied, we are required to animate an entire film by hand(ya know like the old disney stuff) at the end of our second semester.. he and I met at the beginning of "crunch time" but he only took about an hour to 2 hours a night out for me then would work the rest of the day/evening when we were apart.. He knew I went through the same process as he is when I was going to school there, and constantly told me how awesome I was for understanding and giving him time to work on his film.... so eventually we didnt get to see eachother every night, but he would send me texts or call me and tell me he was missing me and looking forward to having more time so he could see me again.... Well he started to seem REALLY stressed out and I told him to just take the next few weeks to finish his film and then we'd get together when he has time to breathe again.. he seemed really thankful and we didnt see eachother for over a week..
Then I get an email from his mom up north saying that he was hit by a car and it messed up his drawing arm and some of his teeth got knocked out.. she explained that he was going to be fine but she wanted to tell me because according to her he was extremely close to me and would probably want to see me etc..... so at this point I was worried sick and couldnt get him on his cell so I drove out to the school and went to his dorm.... I ended up waking him up and I felt bad about it, but he seemed really bugged that I was there and didnt even really thank me for coming out and caring.. I asked why he hadnt called me and he said he didnt wanna get anyone worried:P I felt awkward so I said goodbye and left whilst trying to convinve myself on the way home that he was just drugged up on pain meds and I was just looking into it too much....also I knew that he was already stressed with crunchtime and now his right arm was fractured and that would make working even more difficult....
The next day I get an email from him saying it meant a lot to him for me to come out there and that I'm the best.... my reaction was to this was like "??????!!" SO CONFUSED.. its like his feelings towards me would change by the day.... I no longer got the "I miss you" texts or anything like that.....eventually he called me every other night to say hello but exactly one week from his accident (last wednesday) he called me and told me he didnt have time for me and felt bad, was graduating soon, working on his film and also getting ready his portfolio, that I deserved someone "awesome" who would spend more time with me, and he just didnt know when he was going to be free and also the summer was completely unknown to him (he has to find a job etc and its a tough industry I know this from experience)..... Now I understand all this but the breakup just seemed to come out of nowhere.. and he seemed not even the least bit upset to tell me any of this.. it was like he had already put me out of his mind completely.. He even told me I should still come to the Open Show which is the showcase of student films when they are finished because I'm "such a awesome girl and he enjoys hanging out with me"..... Yeah right. I'm so hurt because for 2 months things were flawless.. We didnt get intimate other than some heavy making out so I know it wasnt sex that messed things up or anything like that.. I've dated a lot of people in the past and had several relationships but I've always been the one to do the breaking up.. so when someone that I hit it off with PERFECTLY chooses to end things with me so suddenly I cant help but wonder what I did..
Everyone keeps telling me its his age and the fact that his life and career is just starting and hes under *so* much stress.. and I really hope thats all it is.. it's just so confusing for me and I just want him back so bad.... The worst part is missing him so much and knowing he's just not missing me. I just wanted to see if anyone had a similar situation and also if anybody here can understand where he's coming from at all.. I see him active still on myspace and he seems happy as ever when commenting on his friends' pages.. I deleted my account completely because I didnt want to see all the sweet things he had said to me there over the last couple months.... I hate myspace now cause its like an open diary of his and I HAVE to look. its awful..
I wish I could just walk away.. I'm so lonely and I feel so small....
Edited 4/26/2006 2:22 am ET by brakco
Edited 4/26/2006 2:25 am ET by brakco

brakco...
Pianoguy would like to remind all ladies reading this about some of us males:
When we're involved in a new venture (business, education, experiment, etc.)....our focus will be primarily on THAT! This doesn't mean you don't matter to us. However, the amount of attention we can provide (to you) will probably be minimal...if any!
Sounds like your b/f has been through a lot of personal and professional experiences during the past few months? So if you wish to....SUPPORT HIM AS A FRIEND! Read nothing more into the relationship until you reach the one year mark. . Assuming your feelings for him are the same, re-evaluate the rules and ask him IF you REALLY fit into his life?
Pianoguy
i'm so sorry you feel this way...actually most of guys are like that for some reason at the beginning of the relationship they like saying all those sweet talk..blah blah blah and after we fall on it...onething you know there gone. CRAZY RIGHT?
READ ALL THE RECENT HEART BROKEN STORY HERE THERE ARE ALL SIMILAR...AT FIRST WE THINK THEIR THE ONE COZ THEIR LIKE THIS AND LIKE THAT.
ANYWAYS YOU DONT DESERVED THIS GUY. I KNOW ITS HARD. YOU ARE YOUNG SO THE JOURNEY IT JUST STARTED!!! HANG IT THERE AND GOOD LUCK