what happened??

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Registered: 09-27-2004
what happened??
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Thu, 09-30-2004 - 10:58am
Okay, now trust me I thought I knew everything.... but here I am so confused! If you have had a similar experience please share, I definitely need some insight. Well, I have been sort of talking to this guy for about 2 months, but definitely nothing serious. I am very busy and he is as well, so I never exactly took him serious and vice versa...you could say we were bull shi*ing on each other. But not too long ago I think we sort of stepped it up, we talk more often on the phone, (our conversations usually didn’t last more then 5-7 minutes) and we’d hang out more often as well. He always refers to how he "likes" me and I am the one who isn’t feeling the vibe etc. But since he has never flat out said what he exactly wants from me, and we all know how guys play I wouldn’t be caught taking someone serious if I really didn’t know. I use to just kind of feel like he wanted to see if I could keep up and of course I love the chase, but we females don’t put ourselves out until we know what is really going on so I didn’t think twice about it. But now that we are hanging out a lot, I had to make the first move. Which was okay its not that serious I do have a degree in psychology you cant play mind games with me ( : but that was the first time we kissed, and the weirdest part is that it only lasted 5 minutes. Now, I don’t know about how long a kissing session is suppose to last I guess there is no time limit, but at first I thought he really liked it. Making a little I guess you could call moans, you know how that is. But here is where he lost me, after about 3 minutes I realized that he wasn’t really enjoying my tongue....( ; I know it sounds so funny, but it seemed like he wanted to kiss me but he didn’t want my tongue in his mouth...I guess what do they call it now a days, open mouth? Well after that point I was totally turned off, lets be real here. We've known each other for a suitable chunk of time, I am positive that if I told him I wanted to sleep with him he would jump at the opportunity, but he can't really kiss me? I don’t know what to think? I have never had this happen before? He likes to try to make me think he likes me and wants to spend a whole lot more time with me, but if you cant really kiss someone, how can you like them? (FYI: it was a good mood, no one stunk or anything, everything was fresh as flowers.... I guess things just happen?) Right?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-30-2004 - 11:13am
drlove, I don't mean to be insensitive, but you might want to try posting this message over on the single life or guy talk message boards. You might get more response over there. Your post just sort of stung because I'm still hurting from a breakup and I don't really want to think about people dating right now. I kind of thought this board was for people going through breakups and trying to deal with all the pain of that. I don't think it's really a board for figuring out new romantic partners. That would be done over on the Single Life Board or the Guy Talk board. But maybe someone will correct me.
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Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 09-30-2004 - 11:15pm
If this is bothering you so much....just talk to him about it....it's better then letting things fester besides.....it could just be a crossing of the signals.
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