What a mess this is
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What a mess this is
| Sun, 02-10-2008 - 3:08pm |
Ok, I am in a heck of a mess right now... Let me back up with a lil background on this.
| Sun, 02-10-2008 - 3:08pm |
Ok, I am in a heck of a mess right now... Let me back up with a lil background on this.
Welcome to the board blandgirl30,
Even if you love or miss someone, it doesn't mean they are healthy for you.
Well, what's done is done as far as breaking up with one for another. But why on earth would you go back to the first guy? Because you "invested time?" That's the biggest crock and the biggest lie people tell themselves when they're in a long-term relationship that is going absolutely nowhere. You went downhill almost from the word 'go' with him, from what you've stated in your post. He may have stood by you in all those hard times, but have you given one thought to the possibility that there might not have been any of those hard times had it not been for him and you letting yourself go responsbility-wise? He stood by alright, stood by and did nothing-- again from your post. Of course he misses you, his free ride is gone.
Since you're now with the new guy, at least have the respect for him to not speak to your ex anymore exchanging all the inappropriate "I miss yous". Doesn't matter if he's your ex, you are now with someone else and that behavior is inappropriate, *regardless* of your previous relationship with him. If you can't do that, then you really need to leave the new guy, too.
This was a bit of a kick in the butt, but I'm betting that exactly what you need right about now. Get yourself straight, and quit waiting on anyone else to clean up the "mess" you've let your life become (your words). You deserve it, and you already know how to do it. Think to how you felt before you ever met the ex.
Good luck,
i think some time being on your own would really help give you clarity and strength. you were able to gain so much stability before these guys, and it's not impossible to get back to that.
i wish you luck.