What really is Space?

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What really is Space?
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Mon, 09-17-2007 - 6:26am

Whats your definition

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 12:31pm

Waiting to see what he does seems pointless to me.

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 4:29pm

I suppose your right, but my thoughts were that I would talk to him when I see him, if I see him this week, and put it to him exactly as you said. I think he's had enough time and space and Im feeling strung along.

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 5:03pm

I can understand that.

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 5:44pm
Oh reality is starting to hit... I call and he doesnt respond or waits a day or two to do so. This relationship is on the edge of being categorized as an emotionally abusive one.
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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 8:39pm

Condusedat46 sorry that this is happening to you!

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 9:41pm

confusedat46... i think in your heart of hearts you know what you need to do.


i think you are prolonging the agony of letting go because you feel its better to have what you have then to have nothing at all.

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Wed, 09-19-2007 - 6:16pm

Radelle1981


I wanted to thank you for your post.

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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 1:28am

Hello confusedat46....


I want to express how sorry I am that you are going through this, I share your pain for I am going through the same pain right now.


The best advice I have for you is to just let it go and don't contact him. I don't even know if I would bother telling him houw you feel, but that is my opinion. I have been dating this guy on and off for about a year and a half. I say "on and off" because 2 times he has asked for space and has always come back to me, and I've always taken him back. It was very hard for me to reject him because when we are together and happy things are AMAZING, but the bad &@#$ just makes it harder and harder to deal with.


If I could offer you another piece of advice it's when you do let go (if you decide to) do it with grace. I didn't. This past time he declared he wanted "space" I didn't give it to him because I became a very insecure person. I begged, pleaded, called, said some nasty things, all in my crazy mind that it would get him back. And now he doesn't want any contact with me. So if you decide to leave, leave with diginity...doing it any other way will leave you broken hearted and ashamed of yourself. Be the one in control for I believe that it makes the pain of the break-up a least a little bit better. And to me it sounds like you have the perfect opportunity to take control. For me, every time my opportunity was there, I let it slip through my fingers, and now I'm kicking myself for it because the break-up hurts 10 times more. I've been in control of a break-up and it's just easier to deal with I think IMO.


"Never make somebody a priority, when you are only an option."


Amy

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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 6:28am

Aimzee,


Im not sure if Im ending it or not at this point, he knows how

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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 3:17pm

Hey girlie!