what to send first?

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Registered: 07-27-2007
what to send first?
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Wed, 08-01-2007 - 1:50am
Yesterday he called to tell me that he cancelled all the things that linked us together, things like netflix and such. I kept a really positive voice. Talking to him alittle about where hes working and small things like that. He said that I sounded really good and that if we dont work out we can be civil with eachother and he said it with sad surprise in his voice. We hung up and 5 seconds later he called me back to remind me again to send in the last movie of netflix... which was odd to me... because that is what he would do when we were still together and didnt want to hang up. it was the first time he called me since hes decided he didnt want to stay in a relationship.
I feel pretty good today. there was absolutely no contact! I didnt make any calls, send any texts or emails. I have understood that these are his wishes and i am going to respect that. but eventually i am planning on sending him a letter in a few weeks. but i also bought tickets to a blues festival that we have been talking about going to forever but never did. the tickets were cheap so its not like im trying to extravegantly buy his love. but i thought it would be a nice gesture to show that im still thinking about him and us.
im not sure of how i will handle any of his reactions yet. so im not doing it soon. not until i can deal with his rejection and not completely backslide. but i am willing to put myself out there eventually.
I guess my question is what should i send first? the letter or the ticket? because if i send the letter and it makes him think that were ready to go on a "date" then he wont go to the concert. But if i dont do it he may not understand what my intentions are and reject it because of that. (my intentions are to build back how we really see eachother and not in a setting of breaking up)
So i am torn. I really appreciate your responses!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Wed, 08-01-2007 - 2:52pm

Hi peace55,


Only you can decide if you are up to this....


But have you considered sending the tickets in the letter?