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What should I do?
| Fri, 12-03-2004 - 4:37pm |
I posted couple weeks ago when my ex broke up with me because he said he didn't think I was the one. Today, he texts me and says that he was an idiot and that he should never have let me go. I've been moving on with my life - keeping busy with friends and work, and finally stopped crying every night. But this just brought me back all the feelings I have been suppressing. What should I do? My friends think I shouldn't talk to him and part of me agrees and think that I should pull the Gloria Gaynor, "I will survive". But part of me also wants to find out what made him change his mind. Any advice?

I agree with the previous poster, it is up to you, if you want to see him, then you should.
About the fling, MAKE SURE THERE IS EVIDENCE to support such a hasty presumption.
My ex and I broker up about 2 times before the finale. The first time he chalked it up to differences in religon, marriage prospects, etc. However, after nearly a week he begged to get back together saying he realized how important our love is, how wonderful I am, and even apologized to my family at the next time he saw them.
I thought for sure he was marriage material, however, when presented with those "doubts" you MUST be cautious, because it isn't necessarily anything specific - put simply: LOVE IS NOT A LOGICAL THOGHT PROCESS. People do not decide to turn it off or on based on a logical analysis of their marriage prospects.
If I may, without sounding too harsh, this guy is tattering the line about YOU, because he slightly thinks you may not be his match. This happens, it happened with me and from your posts, you are describing similar symptons.
I wouldn't dwell on an affair, UNLESS you have evidence - that is a stupid excuse or rationale for men's behavior. Not EVERYONE is a dog .
Be careful because, TRUST ME, the yo-yo thing is HORRIBLY painful and ends in a crash and a boom.
I'm even still going through it. BUT, I know, and we have discussed it - we are no good for eachother. The right person for you is the person that treats you with the unwavering emotion that you apply to him.
Best,
Abeth