what should i think?

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Registered: 06-25-2004
what should i think?
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Wed, 01-31-2007 - 11:12am
Ok this guy and i had been dating for about 8 months and things were really great. We shared the same intrests and had a great time together. He set up some very romantic dates and things seemed to be going good. We didnt see each other real often due to both of us having children but normally once a week and every other weekend. Well i noticed that his calls and text messages got to be real short and less often. So i asked him if something was wrong and his reply was "he didn't want to be involved in a serious relationship right now." I was floored! no sign of this coming at all!! In fact i thought we had the most causual relationship in the world! Nothing serious was even talked about. We agreed that we both really liked each other but that was it! We would get the kids together and do activites once in a while. So where did this come from? What happened? He claimes that what he said is all there is to it but i dont understand! Please help a very confused person. I"ve tried not to contact him and last weekend we went out and just hung out together. (his idea) It was great! we had a balst but he still stands on his excuse??
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Registered: 09-24-2003
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 11:26am
I was in a similar situation except it was serious (at least I thought) and he ended up blindsiding me by breaking up right before the holidays. Like I you I was totatlly confused and kept playing the whole relationship over in my head to the point where I was practically driving myself crazy. Who knows what these guys are thinking. I would just cut him lose because in the end all he is doing is confusing you and who needs that?
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 11:39am

Ok, here's where *you* confuse me.

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Wed, 01-31-2007 - 11:48am
Sorry maybe i should have made some things more clear.. when he said "he didn't want a serious relationship" He was referring that we not really see each other anymore. If something came up he'd consider going out with me for the night but not like it was. I guess the part that floored me was that he never once said anything about this getting to serious or even hinted to that. I guess I thought we were just going with the flow. Seeing what happened. But it a instand he decided that even though he "really likes me" that we should just drop everything. He told me over and over again how much he enjoyed our time together. ??
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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 01-31-2007 - 1:31pm

Ah, thanks for clarifying.

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Wed, 01-31-2007 - 1:38pm
Yes.. I keep telling myself that today isn't as bad as yesterday and tommorow won't be as bad as today! Helps keep me going. I'd love to know what men think when they say things like that!