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what was I thinking??
| Sat, 03-25-2006 - 10:55pm |
There is this younger guy that I work with, he is quite a bit younger than I am and we have been having this "fling" for about seven months now.I eneded it yesterday. Told him it was time to move on and now I am heart broken.He agreed that it was time to move on and even said that he didnt see me as a lover anymore, just a good friend.I have helped him out in the past with some problems he was having and now I feel like he has used me these past couple of months even though I ended it.I realized that I had fallen in love with him and knew it couldnt be more that what it was, but that doesnt make any of this any easier.I am confused and hurt.I am feeling like a fool because I want to pick up the phone and call him. Should I just let this go?? He wants to remain friends but honestly with all the feelings I am having at the moment I dont think it is possible...any advise??

finethings4041...
Pianoguy is a little puzzled?
You ended everything...he agreed that the love aspect between you was OVER...and now you're trying to decide if "cutting the cord" was the right choice???
PLEASE....GET SERIOUS!
How can anybody feel confident about another human being when there's the undercurrent of 'I was used by him' present?
Skip the "let's just be friends" bit and move forward. Your co-worker/bf already has!
Pianoguy
finethings4041...
PG doesn't think there's a single man or woman who visits this (or another ivillage L&S board) that doesn't feel 'a little foolish' after a breakup? It's a major letdown!
We ask ourselves: "Why did I let him (or her) put me through this?" Unfortunately, there's no logical answer "after the event is over?"
But the good news is....you've learned something more about yourself!
And hopefully, what you learned, will send up a 'warning signal' in order to avoid setting yourself to experience a similar situation in the future?
You'll get past this.....Trust me!
Pianoguy