What is wrong with me?!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2005
What is wrong with me?!
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:27pm
I’m having a really, really hard time letting go. It’s been about three weeks now and I still feel really desperate. The craziest part is that I keep forgetting the mean-spirited way he dumped me and I still want him in my life so desperately. WHAT? There isn’t much rational thought happening here! Is that normal? How long should this part of the process last? Can’t take much more …
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Registered: 09-22-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:35pm

Don't be so hard on yourself, nothing is wrong with you!!


Trust me, 3 weeks after my relationship ended, I was not in all that great of shape either... I'm pretty sure I was still crying in the car on my lunch breaks at that point.

Nikki
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-06-2004
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:36pm
Hi Lily,
There's nothing wrong with you--I think that what you're feeling is very normal. It feels awful, it's devastating, you feel like you'll never get better. I can't tell you how long this will last because I think it's different for everyone. Sounds like weird advice, but try to think about the bad things and the reasons why you shouldn't be together. Try not to dwell on the good things right now. Just know that you're not abnormal and things WILL get better.
Hugs, Laura