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| Fri, 11-16-2007 - 12:45pm |
I recently cheated on boyfriend while drunk, of which I am ashamed. We ended up breaking up and the weird thing is I don't miss him or feel anything for that matter. Is this because I deep down wanted to break up or had it just not sunk into my head yet? Can someone please tell me what is going on with me.
lilwicket

Welcome to the board lilwicket,
Maybe you did want it to end. Maybe you've felt it was over for a long time.
Lots of people do this, where they want to break up but have no idea how to do it, maybe they don't think they have a "good" reason to do it, and so they do something so completely outrageous that their partner has no choice but to break up, if they have any self-esteem at all whatsoever. Some people don't and that's where you get the "he/she cheated on me three times, how do I get them to stop?"
Just because other people do it doesn't get you off the hook, though. Learn to deal with your relationships in an adult fashion. If you believe you're mature enough to think you have the right to a relationship, be mature enough to know how to caretake it, or to end it properly and respectfully if it's not working out.
Good luck,