Whats going on?

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Whats going on?
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Fri, 09-21-2007 - 9:51pm

Hey


My ex broke up with me about 6 weeks ago. He said that he wanted to be alone and that he couldn't be in a serious relationship. We were together for 10 months, i know its not very long but long enough to get to know someone. Anyways hes left me very confused about the breakup. He was always the one wanting the relationship, he chased me for 3 months before i decided to go out with him and throughout the relationship he was amazing-he cared for me so much and showed me so much love. About two weeks before we broke up we had a fight and it was pretty full on and it was the night before my birthday. Anyways the nxt day on my actual birthday he came over to mine and said he was so sorry for the way he treated me and spoke to me and that he loves me so much and the person that he was when he was yelling at me wasn't who he is and he doesn't want to loose me and how he's realised how much i mean to him and how he thought i would never want to speak to him again and how he thought he would never get to kiss me again.


Anyways a few days after that i found a conversation on his computer talking to a friend of his and it was the night that we had the fight and it said "im going to break up with her after we get back from going away". (which we were to do the following weekend. Anyways i confronted him about it i said i found a conversation on his computer and if he wants to break up with me do it now, don't do it once we get back. He said that he was angry at me when he wrote that and we had had the fight and he didn't mean it and that he loves me and never wants to break up with me and how i am stuck with him until i get sick of him. Anyways we went away and we had a great time and i came back early and he stayed down there with his best friend and he told me how much he misses me and how much he loves me whilst he was still away. He came back and things were fine, my parents were away and he stayed at my house for the next 5 days before we broke up. Over those 5 days he told me how much he loved me, talked about the future with me and how he was looking forward to it and he cooked me a magnificent roast dinner and we danced and he was his usual cuddely self-kissing me the way he always kisses me, hugging me etc right until we broke up.


The day we broke up he was still doing all the cuddley affectionate stuff. Then all of it was over kind of after a little bickering session we had with each other. He said he needed space and time alone and that i wasn't going to loose him as a best friend and that he loves me etc but after we broke up hes ignored me completely, won't talk to me, has blocked me over the internet and is saying horrible stuff about me to people who don't even know me or haven't met me. He told his best friend after we broke up that he just realised he couldn't be with me anymore but when he was away with his best mate for a few days just before we broke up he told his best mate that he loves everything about me and loves me but doesn'tknow what he wants


So why is he going around and saying stuff about me to people who don't know me and he doesn't even really know that is horrible. He told some random girl that i was a psycho bitch and that he never did love me and wanted 2 get out of the relationship 2 months in and how i clung to him and his interests and how i wanted to marry him and all this stuff when it was actually the other way around. He was the one always talking about how he can't wait until we get married and have kids and i got him interested in all the music hes interested in today that he wouldn't of known of if i hadn't of introduced him to that kinda music and why would he stay with me for 8 months extra months if he wanted 2 get out of it 2 months into the relationship and why would he tell his best friend how much he loves me and tell all his good friends through out the relationship how much he loves me and how great i am if he never apparrently meant it and if he didn't want to be in the relationship why wouldn't he let me break up with him when i've tried to before and he begged me

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: sare88
Fri, 09-21-2007 - 10:00pm

Welcome to the board sare88,


Unfortunately, you may never get any answers from him and even if you did, with his behavior, I'm not sure I'd believe any of the answers.