What's going on here?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-09-2003
What's going on here?
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Thu, 10-14-2004 - 4:26pm
Hello everyone. This is my situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 and 1/2 years now. He is 31 and I am 26. It's been a very rocky road. Everything has been going really good now though. For the last year everything had been good and we had talked about getting married when I get out of school in 2 years. (going back for a bachelor's degree). I had thought that we could get engaged now and have 2 years to plan. Instead he has given me lots of excuses. Everything from he's not ready, to me being in school. He still lives at home and hasn't been actively looking for a place to live. He has been hanging out with single younger guys and girls. He doesn't want to hang out with his friends that are the same age and married. The other night we were talking and I brought up that one of our friend couples were talking about getting married. He said "They'll get married the same time that we do". I said when's that. He said "In may, you know..may the day never happen." I was shocked. We didn't talk for a little while then I said something about it and he say yeah we'll get married someday maybe, but I don't know when. What has happened? Is he just not happy with me or what? Thanks!
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 10-14-2004 - 8:18pm
sorry i have to say this but i think it is good advice......you have been with him long enough for him to be sure if he wants to marry you or not...give him a deadline....say something like I want to get married so i will give you until christmas to decide if you want the same thing....if i dont have a ring and a date by then i will be moving on to find someone who wants the same thing is life that i do....but you must be ready to move on if he does not propose.....it will be hard but you will have your answer one way or the other.

good luck!