whats he thinking???
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whats he thinking???
| Mon, 08-20-2007 - 10:27pm |
hello all!! i heard from my ex on saturday night around 9:30 pm he left me a message after calling my cell twice. all he said the first time was " you stepped out and cant call noone! " i didnt return the call and he called me later at around 1:30 am. i answered becouse i thought it was my daughter and didnt know the # he was calling from. his daughter had surgery on thursday and he asked why i didnt call her? i told him i left 2 messages on his machine for her to let her know i was thinking of her! then he said " i heard you are dating! " i said no im not i have to get my head on straight before i date again! i said your seeing someone right? he said thats what you seem to think! i said thats what you said you was talking to girls online and it was over for us! well we talked a few more minutes about his daughter and he let me go! then the next night he called my cell again and left me a message and said i see you dont have your cell on you so you must not want to talk! i didnt return the call so he called me again and i answered and he was mad at me! he said he knows ive been on yahoo messanger all the time, and i said well if you know that then you must be on too, he said no i have people telling me when your on and how you leave " stepped out " so you dont miss none of your boyfriends! he said you wait til i get home im gonna be on all the time too, i told him you are anyway! i told him i never got on til be broke up with me! for other girls at that!! he said just when i think there is hope for us you hurt me like this! i hurt him!!! he broke up with me becouse of someone online he was talking to i take it! he said i dont want to talk to you nomore tonight so im gonna hang up and and dont call me back! i said ok. i dont get it he turned it all around on me like i was wrong for being on yahoo and i hurt him? im so confused what does he want from me?? do i call him or just leave it alone?

Hi lostnluv1,
Ok, I'm confused, why in the world are you having these kinds of conversations with him?
Just to add to Carrie's answer (which is bang on), if I were him, I'd love to guilt my ex into not dating while I painted the town red. Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too.
So now he's a. thrilled that he can get on without feeling jealous b. justified it to himself that you're the big bad woman. Suffice to say, you're not going to play is egostroking game anymore right?
Just to summarize. He's chatting with girls online while he's with you. Throws you out of his life unceremoniously. YOu spend weeks crying. Then he guilts trips you for 'dating' after HE dumped YOU. Guilts you for not waiting around for him. Whines about how YOU hurt HIM. Threatens to be on yahoo messenger all the time (like a CHILD, I might add) because you're spending 24h a day crying in bed. And you're thinking about calling him back........
Think of it this way, if some random person on the street stopped you and called you a lazy, good for nothing prostitute, would you stop to explain to him the 1001 ways you are not? of course not. And if he refused to be convinced, would you call him BACK later to reexplain why you're a smart independent woman? No of course not. It's not worth your time. You'd laugh in his face, and continue on your merry way. Same principle here. apply
cheers
Susanna
Why does he have to "let" you move on?