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| Tue, 06-05-2007 - 9:54pm |
my bf of 2 1/2 years hasn't been himself lately. We live together but recently he just sits on the couch playing video games all day. Three days ago I came home and he was gone. the first day I figured he was just mad at me. The second, I thought something had happened, then his brother called and said he needs time. He hasn't said anything to me since I last saw him. He won't answer his phone or respond to my emails. The hardest part is not knowing what happened. He left all of his stuff over here yet he won't talk to me. What's the next step? do I move on or give him time.

Hi nappychick and welcome to the board,
I'm not sure what to say. I'm sure you will get mixed opinions.
Hi nappychick..Sorry you are going through this.
My ex did the same thing, came home and he was gone, no explanation or anything, just left.
I know how bad it hurts. Mine didn't come back, I did talk to him on the phone last week, after two months. He was telling me how he found out 1 week ago some of the side effects of the med he was taking was depression, anxiety, short term memory loss and different things.
He stopped taking his meds when he found out and he feels like a different person, that he hasn't been himself for a long time. But he didn't apologize or anything. Mine was also addicted to video games(on pc) He got me into playing video games (which I still do) and I enjoy them sometimes, but for him I think it gave him an escape from dealing with things. Sometimes he didn't go out of the house from Friday night til Monday morning (to go to work) and 85% of that time he was in game. He never called me names
But you know what? Even if he would have apologized and asked to get back together, I wouldn't have. Because I have come to the realization that I deserve so much better. And so do you! If he refuses to talk about it, you don't need him. You can't make him do anything, or change him. The only person you can control and change is yourself and your actions. Decide what you want and need and if he can't give it to you, let him go. Respect and love yourself first. People treat us how WE allow them to treat us.
These boards have helped me tremendously, I am so glad I found them, there is some good advice out there. Do what you need to do for yourself and make yourself happy. You DO NOT deserve to be called names and such! We can get through this and be a better person.
S
Hi nappychick,
I'm glad sassisizz shared her story as I too think