What's wrong with me?? When will I learn
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What's wrong with me?? When will I learn
| Mon, 11-20-2006 - 12:26am |
Is there something wrong with me? ..I seriously think there is..I broke up with my exbf of 2 ½ years 4 months ago and I did what everyone told me to do or tried to. Move on, learn from your mistakes, start dating, etc. Well I met this guy a few weeks ago at a work function. When we met it was obvious that the interest and attraction for each other was mutual. Anyway, he emailed me a couple of days later telling me how gaga and excited he was to have met me and how much he wants to take me out on a date. I was nervous and excited about this guy, cause he was fun, cool and very attractive, plus meeting this new guy actually made me forget about my ex. So last Tuesday night we went out on our first date, well to make a long story short, we ended up sleeping together (yes I know!)..I didn’t want to and I wasn’t planning to. But a woman has needs too you know and I really wanted him. And I really did like him. And now it’s Sunday, and the only thing I got from him was an email the next morning that said “hey there, great evening yesterday. You’re awesome! I was crashed last night. Have a great day today.” I haven’t heard from him since. It’s been 5 days since the date and nothing. I feel just awful and know that after 5 days of not hearing from a guy after a date it usually is the “He’s just not that into you” thing. And now I feel like complete sh*t. I just wish I didn’t sleep with him on the first date, but I can’t take that back and now I regret it. This isn’t the first time I’ve made dumb moves like this. The question is, when am I going to learn??? And what’s wrong with me? Am I that bad of a person?? I just keep thinking what he must think of me now..Feeling like total crap right now ..Thanks for listening.

Can I just say one thing about the "he's not that into you" philosophy?
no obviously nothing is wrong with you dear..your right sometimes we need that too..you know!! esp if we get used to it on our previous bf...is just a craving for us.
anyways like you say you cannot take it back anymore...well guys dont understand that. for them IS A BIG TURN OFF...IF WE GIVE IT OUT THAT FAST TO THEM RIGHT??
well whats important now is WE HAVE TO LEARN FOR WHAT WE EXPERIENCE RIGHT?? past is past...now we have to think what comes next....GOOD LUCK
You are NOT a bad person, everybody is vulnerable at one time or another, you got caught off guard when you were in a bad state... You have to pick yourself and move on AND forget about your ex. Get yourself really involved in stuff, get a gym membership, get really, really busy and find stuff that you enjoy without feeling the need for your ex in your life. It will be tough, but work on getting you as best as you can get you and you'll be fine.
Keep your chin up and forget about that night, you can't change it and you'll only hurt yourself if you continue to beat yourself up over it.
Take care and good luck!