when to break up?
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| Thu, 07-19-2007 - 6:38pm |
Okay, so I know deep down that I don't want to be with my bf for the rest of my life. I love him, I really do, he's just not what I want for my future. He's a truck driver, has a 4 yo daughter- it's a package deal and it's a completely unpredicatable life. So I've come to face that we'll break up. The question is when.
It hurts to me think of losing him, I love being with him and having someone, does anyone know what I mean? It's just nice to have someone to care about and to be cared about. So here's the deal. A week from Monday my family and I are going on vacation for a week. In 5 weeks I'm going to college out of state.
I can:
1. Break up with him next weekend when he's home, right before we go on vacation.
2. Break up with him in a few weekends, right before I leave for college (we're supposed to go to a concert together right before I leave- kind of a stupid reason to stay together, but still...)
3. Wait even longer- ok but that's probably wrong, to keep holding on to him- right?
Does anyone have some advice? This is hard- this is the first time I've really broken up with someone. My first serious relationship. It's been a year. Ugh.

Welcome to the board meggem2005,
You have a tough decision to make.
Hi Carrie-
Great way to ask the question. First off I can say that the time we've been together no matter what hasn't been a lie. Even now, it's just that we're so different. After spending a great weekend together I'm back to I just don't want to break up yet!! Option #3- keep holding on. I just don't know if that's fair to him.