When does the pain go away!
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| Tue, 11-06-2007 - 7:28am |
Well, My bf and I broke up last night after being together for 2 yrs. I found out about 3 weeks ago that he cheated on me with his 19 yr old friend. He tried to get her pregnant because he thouht I was still on the pill, Which was not true I haven't been on the pill since May. We were trying to have a baby. When I fiirst found out he told me everything and that he made a selfish mistake and he would never do it again. I told him that in order for our relationship to work that he had to cut off ALL contact with her. To which he agreed, because he said he loved me so much and wanted to make things work. Well he continued to talk to her over the next several weeks and I continued to put up with it. I told him continuously to stop talking to her, but he continued. Well yesterday was the straw that broke the camels back. I called him at lunch time and he said he was going to lunch when I asked him who was going he told me HER and his office manager. I got so upset. I told him that we had to talk later that night. I told him it was her or me and he chose her! He said that they were not sleeping together that she was just his friend and that he wasn't ready or willing to stop talking to her. He said that she understands him and she is just as messed up in the head as he is and that he has no one else to talk to! He said he loved me with all his heart but that he just did not have the time or energy and the hard work that it was going to take to repair our realationship. He owns his own business and things are really bad right now and he says he has to focus all his attention on work, and that if he focuses on me and our relationship we would not have any money ti live on. He says maybe in 6 months or a year when things get settled out at work that we could start all over again. I am in so much pain right now that I feel like crawling in a hole and never coming out!!!!! I love this man more than anything in the world and I was willing to forgive and try to make things work, but I will not share him with another women, especially the one he cheated on me with!!!!! Everyone tells me he is not the one, but right now I just don't see it. I don't see the light at the end of the tunnel!!!!! Can anyone out there give me any advice on what I should do or how to make the pain go away faster??????? I feel like my whole world in falling down around me and there is nothing I can do to stop it!!!!!! By the way I am 24 and he is 35.

Hugs,
Dbest
Welcome to the board sweetgirl310,
I'm sorry you are going through this pain.