when is enough...enough?
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when is enough...enough?
| Wed, 10-19-2005 - 9:50am |
This SUCKS. i talked to him again last night, and i was doing good...didnt bring up the relationship then i crashed, he told me he was happy with his decision and that he is glad we are broken up BUT yet would still like to get together and talk sometime when HE isnt busy....
how do i let go? this honestly hurts so bad......
how do i let go? this honestly hurts so bad......

He's trying to be blunt but not harsh here, but he's given you no alternative but to let go. I'm so sorry you are going thru this right now, my heart goes out to you. All of us here are struggling with that letting go part. It's called acceptance. Whatever you do, don't hold on to that "we'll talk when I'm not busy" crap as a crumb of hope. It's time to cry it out, use all of your might to draw a bottom line and DON'T TALK TO HIM. Today will seem like eternity, and tommorrow will be harder. And the next day you might still have your fists balled up because you are hurt and angry and just want to call him but don't! Celebrate that you have made it three days, and promise yourself just 3 more. Keep doing that and rewarding yourself for little milestones. It's gonna suck, and it's going to hurt. But you will get through! AND you will have your dignity intact for when he does call you. Hopefully by that time you will by over it, and almost annoyed by his calling you. It's this time of NC that you can cry and hash it out in your mind and go over it and over it until you get tired of reliving every moment and want to stop. You will *want* to feel better and you will start to make steps forward to being happy again, enjoying your friends, your life, the little things, puppies, children, icecream, lol I promise if you give it some time and take some space you will start to see clearer and see why it wouldn't work. You can use this time to focus on his faults and if you can't think of any, write down the basics, "he broke up with you" " he didn't give us a chance" "he smacks when he chews his food, and farts alot" just kidding. But seriously write them down. And remember all the wonderful qualities you have to offer. Without knowing your talents and heart, I can say you have alot of love to give, and alot of patience, you have a big heart. I bet your are giving, beautiful, honest, caring, smart and a whole bunch of other wonderful qualities!! And that guy didn't want to appreciate you?? This is what you remind yourself to really start believing that it is over and that you *will* find love again.
Its enough sweetie, you can do this and you will be alright! I promise
Gracie