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| Mon, 08-23-2004 - 1:59am |
My question is this: Why do they keep calling? A huge case of guilt? Missing me? I know he is capable of staying friends with the ex-wife and people he has dated, have seen him in action and staying in touch with ex-girlfriends while we were together. Not a big issue.
It was maybe 2 hours after he dropped me off at my house after moving my things out yesterday and he calls me to say he is sorry for rushing me earlier, and that he wants us to get together next week after he gets back from his business trip he left on this morning (Sunday, 8/22), to call him (I can't stand it when someone says: "call me" as though what's going on in their life has more of a priority, besides, HE initiated this break up) He then calls me AGAIN today, leaving 2 messages, one on my cell and the other at home in the early afternoon, (he was sitting on the plane on the runway in Atlanta - he had flown earlier this morning from Portland, Oregon, where we both live) saying he got a text message from me late last night and is hoping I am okay. The thing is, I NEVER sent him a text message or called him on his cell last night. I have never, ever sent him a text message in all the time I have known him. Obviously he has been thinking about me, but why so many calls? Is it just an excuse to talk to me? What's up with that...I KNOW I didn't send him a text message (too many complicated steps on my phone), and he knows I didn't send a text message...
He knows how I feel about him, is this his ego talking or just an excuse to stay in contact?
A little history: We had lived together since April and haven't been apart except when he was away on business for 5 days this past June. Every night otherwise we have been together. Yes, it has been really hard and I have been crying a lot this past week. It has been hard on both of us, he says this is hurting him too, but I know the attraction to be single is tugging on him much harder - he probably has one or two women showing interest in him right now.
I have been through break ups much, much harder than this, but this guy, I really love and care about. I'm wise enough to know not to fall prey to games, but what could be
going through his head at this point? I am strong enough to go on knowing that I have to, even though I'm not happy about it.
Anyone have experience with their contacting you? I haven't called him back even though he asked me to call him to let him know I am okay, he said on his message he was concerned about me that I was alright. Other than this break up, we still care about each other, but I am needing to heal right now and go off in the corner to lick my wounds. Any sound advice?
Edited 8/23/2004 9:18 am ET ET by februarymoon4

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I was driving yesterday (Saturday actually) down to stay with my family for some much needed love and support and he called me AGAIN.
This time he caught me live and kept me on my cell, very obviously searching for things to say for conversation. He still has some of my things that were forgotten in the move and offered to bring them over. He also still has some of my things in his wine cellar that I make for a sideline business and kept them there because they were out of the way.
I offered to take these things out of his wine cellar and back to my place but insists to keep them there at his house. What is up with that? Not wanting to let go of any last bit of connection with me and possibly lose me out of his life altogether?
My feeling is that he is a man who makes decisions like this to break up, but can't handle the pain of his decision, the reality and his newfound empty house (and his life) is just too empty and quiet now. He basically wants to have his cake and eat it too.
He also knows how I feel about him, which of course I still love him. My question is: Why drag this out any longer than it needs to be? Anyone with experience with a man like this who is holding on for obvious selfish reasons?
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