When you think he is too good for you...

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Registered: 08-20-2007
When you think he is too good for you...
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 5:30am
I am so in love but never feel like I am good enough for him. I hide my fears and insecurities, but feel them almost all the time. I am afraid that I will fall apart if he confirms my feelings. I don't know if I should leave him and work on myself so I don't feel this way, or stay and see what happens...
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 1:05pm

Welcome to the board ninacherie123,


Since you know what your issues are, why not start working on them?

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Registered: 06-13-2007
Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:58pm
Do you feel this way because HE makes you feel like you're not good enough or because YOU make yourself feel that way?
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Registered: 08-20-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 4:37am
He doesn't make me feel like I am not good enough, I just feel it. Imagine being with someone that has all the qualities you have ever wanted, but feeling like you don't deserve to be with him. He is everything I have ever wanted in a man. I love him so much. But, I am scared that he will eventually see what I see when I look at myself and leave. I already feel deep despair and depression every day but hide it from others. I feel like I have to 'act' happy when I am not. I have urges to end my life almost every morning because my depression and anxiety are so intense. He is my refuge, I feel peace when I have him near me and I don't tell him how I suffer each day. He deserves to be with a happy woman who can add joy to his life. I am afraid that I will only bring him down when I can't hide my true state anymore. I don't know what to do...
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Registered: 06-13-2007
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 8:08am
You are waaaay too hard on yourself! Is it just him you feel that way with or everyone around you? I think you need to build on your self esteem. How about some counseling? You need to be healthy yourself before you can have a healthy relationship.